AGAINST JOVINIANUS, BOOK I (ON MARRIAGE AND VIRGINITY)
AGAINST JOVINIANUS
Book I.
Jovinianus, concerning whom we know little more than is to be found in the
two following books, had published at Rome a Latin treatise containing all, or
part of the opinions here controverted, viz. (I) "That a virgin is no better
as such than a wife in the sight of God. (2) Abstinence is no better than a
thankful partaking of food. (3) A person baptized with the Spirit as well as with
water cannot sin. (4) All sins are equal. (5) There is but one grade of
punishment and one of reward in the future state." In addition to this he held the
birth of our Lord to have been by a "true parturition," and was thus at issue with
the orthodoxy of the time, according to which the infant Jesus passed through
the walls of the womb as His Resurrection body afterwards did out of the tomb or
through the closed doors. Pammachius, Jerome's friend, brought Jovinian's book
under the notice of Siricius, bishop of Rome, and it was shortly afterwards
condemned in synods at that city and at Milan (about A.D. 390). He subsequently
sent Jovinian's books to Jerome, who answered them in the present treatise in
the year 393. Nothing more is known of Jovinian, but it has been conjectured from
Jerome's remark in the treatise against Vigilantius, where Jovinian is said to
have "amidst pheasants and pork rather belched out than breathed out his
life," and by a kind of transmigration to have transmitted his opinions into
Vigilantius, that he had died before 409, the date of that work.
The first book is wholly on the first proposition of Jovinianus, that
relating to marriage and virginity. The first three chapters are introductory. The
rest may be divided into three parts:
1 (ch. 4-13). An exposition, in Jerome's sense, of St. Paul's teaching in
I Cor. vii.
2 (ch. 14-39). A statement of the teaching which Jerome derives from the
various books of both the Old and the New Testaments.
3. A denunciation of Jovinianus (c. 40), and the praises of virginity and
of jingle marriages derived from examples in the heathen world.
The treatise gives a remarkable specimen of Jerome's system of
interpreting Scripture, and also of the methods by which asceticism was introduced into
the Church, and marriage brought into disesteem.
1. Very few days have elapsed since the holy brethren of Rome sent to me
the treatises of a certain Jovinian with the request that I would reply to the
follies contained in them, and would crush with evangelical and apostolic vigour
the[1] Epicurus of Christianity. I read but could not in the least comprehend
them. I began therefore to give them closer attention, and to thoroughly sift
not only words and sentences, but almost every single syllable; for I wished
first to ascertain his meaning, and then to approve, or refute what he had said.
But the style is so barbarous, and the language so vile and such a heap of
blunders, that I could neither understand what he was talking about, nor by what
arguments he was trying to prove his points. At one moment he is all bombast, at
another he grovels: from time to time he lifts himself up, and then like a
wounded snake finds his own effort too much for him. Not satisfied with the language
of men, he attempts something loftier.
[1] "The mountains labour; a poor mouse is born."
[2] "That he's gone mad ev'n mad Orestes swears."
Moreover he involves everything in such inextricable confusion that the
saying of[3] Plautus might be applied to him :--" This is what none but a Sibyl
will ever read."
To understand him we must be prophets. We read Apollo's[4] raving
prophetesses. We remember, too, what[5] Virgil says of senseless noise.[1] Heraclitus,
also, surnamed the Obscure, the philosophers find hard to understand even with
their utmost toil. But what are they compared with our riddle-maker, whose
books are much more difficult to comprehend than to refute ? Although (we must
confess) the task of refuting them is no easy one. For how can you overcome a man
when you are quite in the dark as to his meaning ? But, not to be tedious to my
reader, the introduction to his second book, of which he has discharged himself
like a sot after a night's debauch, will show the character of his eloquence,
and through what bright flowers of rhetoric he takes his stately course.
2. "I respond to your invitation, not that I may go through life with a
high reputation, but may live free from idle rumour. I beseech the ground, the
young shoots of our plantations, the plants and trees of tenderness snatched from
the whirlpool of vice, to grant me audience and the support of many listeners.
We know that the Church through hope, faith, charity, is inaccessible and
impregnable. In it no one is immature: all are apt to learn: none can force a way
into it by violence, or deceive it by craft."
3. What, I ask, is the meaning of these portentous words and of this
grotesque description? Would you not think he was in a feverish dream, or that he
was seized with madness and ought to be put into the strait jacket which
Hippocrates prescribed? However often I read him, even till my heart sinks within me, I
am still in uncertainty of his meaning.[2] Everything starts from, everything
depends upon, something else. It is impossible to make out any connection; and,
excepting the proofs from Scripture which he has not dared to exchange for his
own lovely flowers of rhetoric, his words suit all matter equally well,
because they suit no matter at all. This circumstance led me shrewdly to suspect that
his object in proclaiming the excellence of marriage was only to disparage
virginity. For when the less is put upon a level with the greater, the lower
profits by comparison, but the higher suffers wrong. For ourselves, we do not follow
the views of [3] Marcion and Manichaeus, and disparage marriage; nor, deceived
by the error of[4] Tatian, the leader of the Encratites, do we think all
intercourse impure; he condemns and rejects not only marriage but also food which
God created for the use of man. We know that in a great house, there are not only
vessels of gold and silver, but also of wood and earthenware. And that upon
the foundation, Christ, which Paul the master-builder laid, some build gold,
silver, precious stones: others, on the contrary, hay, wood, straw. We are not
ignorant of the words,[1] " Marriage is honourable among all, and the bed
undefiled." We have read God's first command,[2] "Be fruitful, and multiply, and
replenish the earth "; but while we honour marriage we prefer virginity which is the
offspring of marriage. Will silver cease to be silver, if gold is more precious
than silver? Or is despite done to tree and corn, if we prefer the fruit to
root and foliage, or the grain to stalk and ear? Virginity is to marriage what
fruit is to the tree, or grain to the straw. Although the hundred-fold, the
sixty-fold, and the thirty-fold spring from one earth and from one sowing, yet there
is a great difference in respect of number. The thirty-fold has reference to
marriage. The very way the[3] fingers are combined--see how they seem to embrace,
tenderly kiss, and pledge their troth either to other--is a picture of husband
and wife. The sixty-fold applies to widows, because they are placed in a
position of difficulty and distress. Hence the upper finger signifies their
depression, and the greater the difficulty in resisting the allurements of pleasure
once experienced, the greater the reward. Moreover (give good heed, my reader), to
denote a hundred, the right hand is used instead of the left: a circle is made
with the same fingers which on the left hand represented widowhood, and thus
the crown of virginity is expressed. In saying this I have followed my own
impatient spirit rather than the course of the argument. For I had scarcely left
harbour, and had barely hoisted sail, when a swelling tide of words suddenly swept
me into the depths of the discussion. I must stay my course, and take in
canvas for a little while; nor will I indulge my sword, anxious as it is to strike a
blow for virginity. The farther back the catapult is drawn, the greater the
force of the missile. To linger is not to lose, if by lingering victory is better
assured. I will briefly set forth our adversary's views, and will drag them
out from his books like snakes from the holes where they hide, and will separate
the venomous head from the writhing body. What is baneful shall be discovered,
that, when we have the power, it may be crushed.
He says that "virgins, widows, and married women, who have been once
passed through the layer of Christ, if they are on a par in other respects, are of
equal merit."
He endeavours to show that "they who with full assurance of faith have
been born again in baptism, cannot be overthrown by the devil."
His third point is "that there is no difference between abstinence from
food, and its reception with thanksgiving."
The fourth and last is "that there is one reward in the kingdom of heaven
for all who have kept their baptismal vow."
4. This is the hissing of the old serpent; by counsel such as this the
dragon drove man from Paradise. For he promised that if they would prefer fulness
to fasting they should be immortal, as though it were an impossibility for them
to fall; and while he promises they shall be as Gods, he drives them from
Paradise, with the result that they who, while naked and unhampered, and as virgins
unspotted enjoyed the fellowship of the Lord were cast down into the vale of
tears, and sewed skins together to clothe themselves withal. But, not to detain
the reader any longer, I will keep to the division given above and taking his
propositions one by one will rely chiefly on the evidence of Scripture to refute
them, for fear he may chatter and complain that he was overcome by rhetorical
skill rather than by force of truth. If I succeed in this and with the aid of a
cloud of witnesses from both Testaments prove too strong for him, I will then
accept his challenge, and adduce illustrations from secular literature. I will
show that even among philosophers and distinguished statesmen, the virtuous are
wont to be preferred by all to the voluptuous, that is to say men like[1]
Pythagoras,[2] Plato and[3] Aristides, to[4] Aristippus,[5] Epicurus and [1]
Alcibiades. I entreat virgins of both sexes and all such as are continent, the
married also and the twice married, to assist my efforts with their prayers. Jovinian
is the common enemy For he who maintains all to be of equal merit, does no
less injury to virginity in comparing it with marriage than he does to marriage,
when he allows it to be lawful, but to the same extent as second and third
marriages. But to digamists and trigamists also he does wrong, for he places on a
level with them whoremongers and the most licentious persons as soon as they have
repented; but perhaps those who have been married twice or thrice ought not to
complain, for the same whoremonger if penitent is made equal in the kingdom of
heaven even to virgins. I will therefore explain more clearly and in proper
sequence the arguments he employs and the illustrations he adduces respecting
marriage, and will treat them in the order in which he states them. And I beg the
reader not to be disturbed if he is compelled to read Jovinian's nauseating
trash. He will all the more gladly drink Christ's antidote after the devil's
poisonous concoction. Listen with patience, ye virgins; listen, I pray you, to the
voice of the most voluptuous of preachers; nay rather close your ears, as you
would to the Syren's fabled songs, and pass on. For a little while endure the
wrongs you suffer: think you are crucified with Christ, and are listening to the
blasphemies of the Pharisees.
5. First of all, he says, God declares that[2] " therefore shall a man
leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be
one flesh." And lest we should say that this is a quotation from the Old
Testament, he asserts that it has been[3] confirmed by the Lord in the Gospel--"
What God hath joined together, let not man put asunder ": and he immediately
adds,[4] "Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth." He next repeats the
names of Seth, Enos, Cainan, Mahalalel, Jared, Enoch, Methuselah, Lamech, Noah,
and tells us that they all had wives and in accordance with the will of God
begot sons, as though there could be any table of descent or any history of
mankind without wives and children. "There," says he, "is Enoch, who walked with God
and was carried up to heaven. There is Noah, the only person who, except his
wife, and his sons and their wives, was saved at the deluge, although there must
have been many persons not of marriageable age, and therefore presumably
virgins. Again, after the deluge, when the human race started as it were anew, men
and women were paired together and a fresh blessing was pronounced on
procreation, [1]"Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth." Moreover, free
permission was given to eat flesh,[2] "Every moving thing that liveth shall be food
for you; as the green herb have I given you all." He then flies off to Abraham,
Isaac, and Jacob, of whom the first had three wives, the second one, the third
four, Leah, Rachel, Billah, and Zilpah, and he declares that Abraham by his
faith merited the blessing which he received in begetting his son. Sarah,
typifying the Church, when it had ceased to be with her after the manner of women,
exchanged the curse of barrenness for the blessing of child-bearing. We are
informed that Rebekah went like a prophet to inquire of the Lord, and was told,[3]
"Two nations and two peoples are in thy womb." that Jacob served for his wife,
and that when Rachel, thinking it was in the power of her husband to give her
children, said,[4] "Give me children, or else I die," he replied,[5] "Am I in
God's stead, who hath withheld from thee the fruit of the womb ?" so well aware was
he that the fruit of marriage cometh from the Lord and not from the husband.
We next learn that Joseph, a holy man of spotless chastity, and all the
patriarchs, had wives, and that God blessed them all alike through the lips of Moses.
Judah also and Thamar are brought upon the scene, and he censures Onan, slain by
the Lord, because he, grudging to raise up seed to his brother, marred the
marriage rite. He refers to Moses and the leprosy of Miriam, who, because she
chided her brother on account of his wife, was stricken by the avenging hand of
God. He praises Samson, I may even say extravagantly panegyrizes the uxorious
Nazarite. Deborah also and Barak are mentioned, because, although they had not the
benefit of virginity, they were victorious over the iron chariots of Sisera and
Jabin. He brings forward Jael, the wife of Heber the Kenite, and extols her
for arming herself with the[6] stake. He says there was no difference between
Jephthah and his virgin daughter, who was sacrificed to the Lord: nay, of the two,
he prefers the faith of the father to that of the daughter who met death with
grief and tears. He then comes to Samuel, another Nazarite of the Lord, who
from infancy was brought up in the tabernacle and was clad in a linen ephod, or,
as the words are rendered, in listen vestments: he, too, we are told, begot sons
without a stain upon his priestly purity. He places Boaz and his wife Ruth
side by side in his repository, and traces the descent of Jesse and David from
them. He then points out how David himself, for the price of two hundred foreskins
and at the peril of his life, was bedded with the king's daughter. What shall
I say of Solomon, whom he includes in the list of husbands, and represents as a
type of the Saviour, maintaining that of him it was written,[1] "Give the king
thy judgments, O God, and thy righteousness unto the king's son "? And[2] "To
him shall be given of the gold of Sheba, and men shall pray for him
continually." Then all at once he makes a jump to Elijah and Elisha, and tells us as a
great secret that the spirit of Elijah rested on Elisha. Why he mentioned this he
does not say. It can hardly be that he thinks Elijah and Elisha, like the rest,
were married men. The next step is to Hezekiah, upon whose praises he dwells,
and yet (I wonder why) forgets to mention that he said,[3] " Henceforth I will
beget children." He relates that Josiah, a righteous man, in whose time the
book of Deuteronomy was found in the temple, was instructed by Huldah, wife of
Shallum. Daniel also and the three youths are classed by him with the married.
Suddenly he betakes himself to the Gospel, and adduces Zachariah and Elizabeth,
Peter and his father-in-law, and the rest of the Apostles. His inference is thus
expressed: "If they idly urge in defence of themselves the plea that the world
in its early stage needed to be replenished, let them listen to the words of
Paul,[4] ' I desire therefore that the younger widows marry, bear children.'
And[5] 'Marriage is honourable and the bed undefiled.' And[6] ' A wife is bound for
so long time as her husband liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is free to
be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.' And[7] Adam was not beguiled,
but the woman being beguiled hath fallen into transgression: but she shall be
saved through the child-bearing, if they continue in faith and love and
sanctification with sobriety.' Surely we shall hear no more of the famous Apostolic
utterance,[8] 'And they who have wives as though they had them not.' It can hardly
be that you will say the reason why he wished them to be married was that some
widows had already turned back after Satan: as though virgins never fell and
their fall was not more ruinous. All this makes it clear that in forbidding to
marry, and to eat food which God created for use, you have consciences seared as
with a hot iron, and are followers of the Manichaeans." Then comes much more
which it would be unprofitable to discuss. At last he dashes into rhetoric and
apostrophizes virginity thus: "I do you no wrong, Virgin: you have chosen a life
of chastity on account of the present distress: you determined on the course
in order to be holy in body and spirit: be not proud: you and your married
sisters are members of the same Church."
6. I have perhaps explained his position at too great a length, and become
tedious to my reader; but I thought it best to draw up in full array against
myself all his efforts, and to muster all the forces of the enemy with their
squadrons and generals, lest after an early victory there should spring up a
series of other engagements. I will not therefore do battle with single foes, nor
will I be satisfied with skirmishes in which I meet small detachments of my
opponents. The battle must be fought with the whole army of the enemy, and the
disorderly rabble, fighting more like brigands than soldiers, must be repulsed by
the skill and method of regular warfare. In the front rank I will set the Apostle
Paul, and, since he is the bravest of generals, will arm him with his own
weapons, that is to say, his own statements. For the Corinthians asked many
questions about this matter, and the doctor of the Gentiles and master of the Church
gave full replies. What he decreed we may regard as the law of Christ speaking
in him. At the same time, when we begin to refute the several arguments, I trust
the reader will give me his attention even before the Apostle speaks, and will
not, in his eagerness to discuss the most weighty points, neglect the
premises, and rush at once to the conclusion.
7. Among other things the Corinthians asked in their letter whether after
embracing the faith of Christ they ought to be unmarried, and for the sake of
continence put away their wives, and whether believing virgins were at liberty
to marry. And again, supposing that one of two Gentiles believed on Christ,
whether the one that believed should leave the one that believed not? And in case
it were allowable to take wives, would the Apostle direct that only Christian
wives, or Gentiles also, should be taken? Let us then consider Paul's replies to
these inquiries.[1] "Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote: It is good for
a man not to touch a woman. But, because of fornications, let each man have
his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render
unto the wife her due: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath
not power over her own body, but the husband: And likewise also the husband
hath not power over his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other,
except it be by consent for a season, that ye may give yourselves unto prayer, and
may be together again, that Satan tempt you not because of your incontinency.
But this I say by way of permission not of commandment. Yet I would that all men
were even as I myself. Howbeit each man hath his own gift from God, one after
this manner, and another after that. But I say to the Unmarried and to widows,
it is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they have not continency,
let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn." Let us turn back to the
chief point of the evidence: "It is good," he says, "for a man not to touch a
woman." If it is good not to touch a woman, it is bad to touch one: for there
is no opposite to goodness but badness. But if it be bad and the evil is
pardoned, the reason for the concession is to prevent worse evil. But surely a thing
which is only allowed because there may be something worse has only a slight
degree of goodness. He would never have added "let each man have his own wife,"
unless he had previously used the words "but, because of fornications." Do away
with fornication, and he will not say "let each man have his own wife." Just as
though one were to lay it down: "It is good to feed on wheaten bread, and to
eat the finest wheat flour," and yet to prevent a person pressed by hunger from
devouring cow-dung, I may allow, him to eat barley. Does it follow that the
wheat will not have its peculiar purity, because such an one prefers barley to
excrement? That is naturally good which does not admit of comparison with what is
bad, and is not eclipsed because something else is preferred. At the same time
we must notice the Apostle's prudence. He did not say, it is good not to have a
wife: but, it is good not to touch a woman: as though there were danger even in
the touch: as though he who touched her, would not escape from her who
"hunteth for the precious life," who causeth the young man's understanding to fly
away.[1] " Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Or can
one walk upon hot coals. and his feet not be scorched?" As then he who touches
fire is instantly burned, so by the mere touch the peculiar nature of man and
woman is perceived, and the difference of sex is understood, Heathen fables
relate how[2] Mithras and[3] Ericthonius were begotten of the soil, in stone or
earth, by raging lust. Hence it was that our Joseph, because the Egyptian woman
wished to touch him, fled from her hands, and, as if he had been bitten by a mad
dog and feared the spreading poison, threw away the cloak which she had
touched. "But, because of fornications let each man have his own wife, and let each
woman have her own husband." He did not say, because of fornication let each man
marry a wife: otherwise by this excuse he would have thrown the reins to lust,
and whenever a man's wife died, he would have to marry another to prevent
fornication, but "have his own wife." Let him he says have and use his own wife,
whom he had before he became a believer, and whom it would have been good not to
touch, and, when once he became a follower of Christ, to know only as a sister,
not as a wife unless fornication should make it excusable to touch her. "The
wife hath not power over her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the
husband hath not power over his own body, but the wife." The whole question here
concerns those who are married men. Is it lawful for them to do what our Lord
forbade in the Gospel, and to put away their wives? Whence it is that the Apostle
says, " It is good for a man not to touch a woman." But inasmuch as he who is
once married has no power to abstain except by mutual consent, and may not
reject an unoffending partner, let the husband render unto the wife her due. He
bound himself voluntarily that he might be under compulsion to render it. "Defraud
ye not one the other, except it be by consent for a season, that ye may give
yourselves unto prayer." What, I pray you, is the quality of that good thing
which hinders prayer? which does not allow the body of Christ to be received ? So
long as I do the husband's part, I fail in continency. The same Apostle in
another place commands us to pray always. If we are to pray always, it follows that
we must never be in the bondage of wedlock, for as often as I render my wife
her due, I cannot pray. The Apostle Peter had experience of the bonds of
marriage. See how he fashions the Church, and what lesson he teaches Christians:[1]
"Ye husbands in like manner dwell with your wives according to knowledge, giving
honour unto the woman, as unto the weaker vessel, as being also joint-heirs of
the grace of life; to the end that your prayers be not hindered." Observe that,
as S. Paul before, because in both cases the spirit is the same, so S. Peter
now, says that prayers are hindered by the performance of marriage duty. When he
says "likewise," he challenges the husbands to imitate their wives, because he
has already given them commandment:[2] " beholding your chaste conversation
coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be the outward adorning of plaiting
the hair, and of wearing jewels of gold, or of putting on apparel: but let it
be the hidden man of the heart, in the incorruptible apparel of a meek and
quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price." You see what kind of
wedlock he enjoins. Husbands and wives are to dwell together according to
knowledge, so that they may know what God wishes and desires, and give honour to the
weak vessel, woman. If we abstain from intercourse, we give honour to our wives:
if we do not abstain, it is clear that insult is the opposite of honour. He
also tells the wives to let their husbands "see their chaste behaviour, and the
hidden man of the heart, in the incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet
spirit." Words truly worthy of an apostle, and of Christ's rock! He lays down the law
for husbands and wives, condemns outward ornament, while he praises
continence, which is the ornament of the inner man, as seen in the incorruptible apparel
of a meek and quiet spirit. In effect he says this: Since your outer man is
corrupt, and you have ceased to possess the blessing of incorruption
characteristic of virgins, at least imitate the incorruption of the spirit by subsequent
abstinence, and what you cannot show in the body exhibit in the mind. For these
are the riches, and these the ornaments of your union, which Christ seeks.
8. The words which follow, "that ye may give yourselves unto prayer, and
may be together again," might lead one to suppose that the Apostle was
expressing a wish and not making a concession because of the danger of a greater fall.
He therefore at once adds, "lest Satan tempt you for your incontinency." It is a
fine permission which is conveyed in the words "be together again." What it
was that he blushed to call by its own name, and thought only better than a
temptation of Satan and the effect of incontinence, we take trouble to discuss as if
it were obscure, although he has explained his meaning by saying, "this I say
by way of permission, not by way of command." And do we still hesitate to speak
of marriage as a concession to weakness, not a thing commanded, as though
second and third marriages were not allowed on the same ground, as though the doors
of the Church were not opened by repentance even to fornicators, and what is
more, to the incestuous? Take the case of the man who outraged his step-mother.
Does not the Apostle, after delivering him, in his first Epistle to the
Corinthians, to Satan for the destruction of the flesh that his spirit might be saved,
in the second Epistle take the offender back and strive to prevent a brother
from being swallowed up by overmuch grief. The Apostle's wish is one thing, his
pardon another. If a wish be expressed, it confers a right; if a thing is only
called pardonable, we are wrong in using it. If you wish to know the Apostle's
real mind you must take in what follows: "but I would that all men were as I
am." Happy is the man who is like Paul! Fortunate is he who attends to the
Apostle's command, not to his concession. This, says he, I wish, this I desire that
ye be imitators of me, as I also am of Christ, who was a Virgin born of a
Virgin, uncorrupt of her who was uncorrupt. We, because we are men, cannot imitate
our Lord's nativity; but we may at least imitate His life. The former was the
blessed prerogative of divinity, the latter belongs to our human condition and is
part of human effort. I would that all men were like me, that while they are
like me, they may also become like Christ, to whom I am like. For[1] "he that
believeth in Christ ought himself also to walk even as He walked."[2] " Howbeit
each man hath his own gift from God, one after this manner, and another after
that." What I wish, he says, is clear. But since in the Church there is a
diversity of gifts, I acquiesce in marriage, lest I should seem to condemn nature. At
the same time consider, that the gift of virginity is one, that of marriage,
another. For were the reward the same for the married and for virgins, he would
never after enjoining continence have said:[3] " Each man hath his own gift from
God, one after this manner, and another after that." Where there is a
distinction in one particular, there is a diversity also in other points. I grant that
even marriage is a gift of God, but between gift and gift there is great
diversity. In fact the Apostle himself speaking of the same person who had repented of
his incestuous conduct, says:[3] " so that contrariwise ye should rather
forgive him and comfort him, and to whom ye forgive anything, I forgive also." And
that we might not think a man's gift contemptible, he added,[4] "for what I also
have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, for your sakes have I forgiven it,
in the presence of Christ." There is diversity in the gifts of Christ. Hence
it is that by way of type Joseph has a coat of many colours. And in the
forty-fifth psalm we read,[5] " at thy right hand doth Stand the queen in a vesture of
gold wrought about with divers colours." And the Apostle Peter says,[6] " as
heirs together of the manifold grace of God," where the more expressive Greek
word <greek>poikilhs</greek>, i.e., varied, is used.
9. Then come the words[7] "But I say to the unmarried and to widows, it is
good for them if they abide even as I. But if they have not continency, let
them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn." Having conceded to married
persons the enjoyment of wedlock and pointed out his own wishes, he passes on to
the unmarried and to widows, sets before them his own practice for imitation,
and calls them happy if they so abide. "But if they have not continency, let
them marry," just as he said before "But because of fornications," and "Lest
Satan tempt you, because of your incontinency." And he gives a reason for saying
"If they have not continency, let them marry," viz. "It is better to marry than
to burn." The reason why it is better to marry is that it is worse to burn. Let
burning lust be absent, and he will not say it is better to marry. The word
better always implies a comparison with something worse, not a thing absolutely
good and incapable of comparison. It is as though he said, it is better to have
one eye than neither, it is better to stand on one foot and to support the rest
of the body with a stick, than to crawl with broken legs. What do you say,
Apostle? I do not believe you when you say " Though I be rude in speech, yet am I
not in knowledge." As humility is the source of the sayings "For I am not worthy
to be called an Apostle," and "To me who am the least of the Apostles," and
"As to one born out of due time," so here also we have an utterance of humility.
You know the meaning of language, or you would not quote Epimenides,[2]
Menander, and[3] Aratus. When you are discussing continence and virginity you say, "It
is good for a man not to touch a woman." And, "It is good for them if they
abide even as I." And, "I think that this is good by reason of the present
distress." And, "That it is good for a man so to be." When you come to marriage, you
do not say it is good to marry, because you cannot then add "than to burn;" but
you say, "It is better to marry than to burn." If marriage in itself be good,
do not compare it with fire, but simply say" It is good to marry." I suspect the
goodness of that thing which is forced into the position of being only the
lesser of two evils. What I want is not a smaller evil, but a thing absolutely
good.
10. So far the first section has been explained. Let us now come to those
which follow.[4] "But unto the married I give charge, yea not I, but the Lord.
That the wife depart not from her husband (but and if she depart, let her
remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband): and that the husband leave
not his wife. But to the rest say I, not the Lord: If any brother hath an
unbelieving wife, and she is content to dwell with him, let him not leave her," and
so on to the words "As God hath called each, so let him walk. And so ordain I
in all the churches." This passage has no bearing on our present controversy.
For he ordains, according to the mind of the Lord, that excepting the cause of
fornication, a wife must not be put away, and that a wife who has been put away,
may not, so long as her husband lives, be married to another, or at all events
that her duty is to be reconciled to her husband. But in the case of those who
are already married at the time of conversion, that is to say, supposing one of
the two were a believer, he enjoins that the believer shall not put away the
unbeliever. And after stating his reason, viz., that the unbeliever who is
unwilling to leave the believer becomes thereby a candidate for the faith, he
commands, on the other hand, that if the unbeliever reject the faithful one on
account of the faith of Christ, the believer ought to depart, lest husband or wife be
preferred to Christ, in comparison with Whom we must hold even life itself
cheap. Yet at the present day many women despising the Apostle's command, are
joined to heathen husbands, and prostitute the temples of Christ to idols. They do
not understand that they are part of His body though indeed they are His ribs.
The Apostle is lenient to the union of unbelievers, who having (believing)
husbands, afterwards come to believe in Christ. He does not extend his indulgence
to those women who, although Christians, have been married to heathen husbands.
To these he elsewhere says,[1] "Be not unequally yoked with unbelievers: for
what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? or what communion hath light
with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what portion hath a
believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement hath a temple of God with idols?
For we are a temple of the living God." Although I know that crowds of matrons
will be furious against me: although I know that just as they have shamelessly
despised the Lord, so they will rave at me who am but a flea and the least of
Christians: yet I will speak out what I think. I will say what the Apostle has
taught me, that they are not on the side of righteousness, but of iniquity: not
of light, but of darkness: that they do not belong to Christ, but to Belial:
that they are not temples of the living God, but shrines and idols of the dead.
And, if you wish to see more clearly how utterly unlawful it is for a Christian
woman to marry a Gentile, consider what the same Apostle says,[2] "A wife is
bound for so long time as her husband liveth: but if the husband be dead, she is
free to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord," that is, to a
Christian. He who allows second and third marriages in the Lord, forbids first marriages
with a Gentile. Whence Abraham also makes his servant swear upon his thigh,
that is, on Christ, Who was to spring from his seed, that he would not bring an
alien-born as a wife for his son Isaac. And Ezra checked an offence of this kind
against God by making his countrymen put away their wives. And the prophet
Malachi thus speaks,[1] "Judah hath dealt treacherously, and an abomination is
committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath profaned the holiness of the
Lord which he loveth, and hath married the daughter of a strange god. The Lord
will cut off the man that doeth this,[2] him that teacheth and him that
learneth, out of the tents of Jacob, and him that offers an offering unto the Lord of
hosts." I have said this that they who compare marriage with virginity, may at
least know that such marriages as these are on a lower level than digamy and
trigamy.
11. In the above discussion the Apostle has taught that the believer ought
not to depart from the unbeliever, but remain in marriage as the faith found
them, and that each man whether married or single should continue as he was when
baptized into Christ; and then he suddenly introduces the metaphors of
circumcision and uncircumcision, of bond and free, and under those metaphors treats of
the married and unmarried.[3] "Was any man called being circumcised ? let him
not become uncircumcised. Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is
nothing: but the keeping of the commandments of God. Let each man abide in that
calling wherein he was called. Wast thou called being a bondservant? Care not for
it: but even if thou canst become free, use it rather. For he that was called in
the Lord being a bondservant, is the Lord's freedman; likewise he that was
called, being free, is Christ's bondservant. Ye were bought with a price; become
not bondservants of men. Brethren, let each man, wherein he was called, therein
abide with God." Some, I suppose, will find fault with the Apostle's way of
reasoning. I would therefore ask first, What we are to infer from his suddenly
passing in a discussion concerning husbands and wives to a comparison of Jew and
Gentile, bond and free, and then returning, when this point is settled, to the
question about virgins, and telling us "Concerning virgins I have no commandment
from the Lord "; what has a comparison of Jew and Gentile, bond and free, to do
with wedlock and virginity? In the next place, how are we to understand the
words "Hath any been called in uncircumcision, let him not be circumcised"?[1]
Can a man who has lost his foreskin restore it again at his pleasure? Then, in
what sense are we to explain "For he that was called in the Lord, being a
bondservant, is the Lord's freedman : likewise he that was called, being free, is
Christ's bondservant." Fourthly, how is it that he who commanded servants to obey
their masters according to the flesh, now says, "Become net bondservants of
men." Lastly, how are we to connect with slavery, or with circumcision, his saying"
Brethren, let each man, wherein he was called, therein abide with God," which
even contradicts his previous opinion. We heard him say "Become not
bondservants of men." How can we then possibly abide in that vocation wherein we were
called, when many at the time they became believers had masters according to the
flesh, whose bondservants they are now forbidden to be? Moreover, what has the
argument about our abiding in the vocation wherein we were called, to do with
circumcision? for in another place the same Apostle cries aloud "Behold i Paul
tell you that, if ye be circumcised, Christ shall profit you nothing "? We must
conclude, therefore, that a higher meaning should be given to circumcision and
uncircumcision, bond and free, and that these words must be taken in close
connection with what has gone before. "Was anyone called being circumcised ? let him
not become uncircumcised." If, he says, at the time you were called and became
a believer in Christ, if I say, you were called being circumcised from a wife,
that is, unmarried, do not marry a wife, that is, do not become uncircumcised,
lest you lay upon the freedom of circumcision and chastity the burden of
marriage. Again, if anyone was called in uncircumcision, let him not be circumcised.
You had a wife, he says, when you believed: do not think the faith of Christ a
reason for disagreement, because God called us in peace.[2] " Circumcision is
nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing; but the keeping of the commandments of
God." For neither celibacy nor marriage availeth anything without works, since
even faith, which is specially characteristic of Christians, if it have not
works, is said to be dead, and vestal virgins and Juno's widows might upon these
terms be numbered with the saints. "Let each man in the vocation wherein he was
called, therein abide." Whether he had, or had not, a wife when he believed, let
him remain in that condition in which he was when called. Accordingly he does
not so strongly urge virgins to be married, as forbid divorce. And as he debars
those who have wives from putting them away, so he cuts off from virgins the
power of being married. "Thou wast called being a slave, heed it not; but even
if thou canst become free, use it rather." Even if you have, he says, a wife,
and are bound to her, and pay her due, and have not power over your own body; or
if, to speak more clearly, you are the bondservant of your wife, be not sad
upon that account, nor sigh for the loss of your virginity. But even if you can
find some causes of discord, do not, for the sake of thoroughly enjoying the
liberty of chastity, seek your own welfare by destroying another. Keep your wife
awhile, and do not go too fast for her lagging footsteps: wait till she follows.
If you are patient, your spouse will become a sister, "For he that was called
in the Lord, being a bondservant, is the Lord's freedman: likewise, he that was
called being free, is Christ's bondservant." He gives his reasons for not
wishing wives to be forsaken. He therefore says, I command that Gentiles who believe
on Christ do not abandon the married state in which they were before embracing
the faith: for he who had a wife when he became a believer, is not so strictly
devoted to the service of God as virgins and unmarried persons. But, in a
manner, he has more freedom, and the reins of his bondage are relaxed; and, while
he is the bondservant of a wife, he is, so to speak, the freedman of the Lord.
Moreover, he who when called by the Lord had not a wife and was free from the
bondage of wedlock, he is truly Christ's bondservant. What happiness to be the
bondservant, not of a wife but of Christ, to serve not the flesh, but the spirit
![1] " For he who is joined unto the Lord is one spirit." There was some fear
that by saying "Wast thou called being a bondservant ? Care not for it: but,
even if thou canst become free, use it rather," he might seem to have flouted
continence, and to have given us up to the slavery of marriage. He therefore makes
a remark which removes all cavil: "Ye were bought with a price, become not
servants of men." We have been redeemed with the most precious blood of Christ: the
Lamb was slain for us, and having been sprinkled with hyssop and the warm
drops of His blood, we have rejected poisonous pleasure. Why do we at whose baptism
Pharaoh died and all his host was drowned, again turn back in our hearts to
Egypt, and after the manna, angels' food, sigh for the garlic and the onions and
the cucumbers, and Pharaoh's meat?
12. Having discussed marriage and continency he at length comes to
virginity and says[1] "Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: but I
give my judgement, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.
I think therefore that this is good by reason of the present distress, namely,
that it is good for a man to be as he is," Here our opponent goes utterly wild
with exultation: this is his strongest battering-ram with which he shakes the
wall of virginity. "See," says he, "the Apostle confesses that as regards
virgins he has no commandment of the Lord, and he who had with authority laid down
the law respecting husbands and wives, does not dare to command what the Lord
has not enjoined. And rightly too. For what is enjoined is commanded, what is
commanded must be done, and that which must be done implies punishment if it be
not done. For it is useless to order a thing to be done and yet leave the
individual free to do it or not do it. If the Lord had commanded virginity He would
have seemed to condemn marriage, and to do away with the seed-plot of mankind, of
which virginity itself is a growth. If He had cut off the root, how was He to
expect fruit? If the foundations were not first laid, how was He to build the
edifice, and put on the roof to cover all ! Excavators toil hard to remove
mountains; the bowels of the earth are pierced in the search for gold. And, when the
tiny particles, first by the blast of the furnace, then by the hand of the
cunning workman have been fashioned into an ornament, men do not call him blessed
who has separated the gold from the dross but him who wears the beautiful gold.
Do not marvel then if, placed as we are, amid temptations of the flesh and
incentives to vice, the angelic life be not exacted of us, but merely recommended.
If advice be given, a man is free to proffer obedience; if there be a command,
he is a servant bound to compliance. "I have no commandment," he says, "of the
Lord: but I give my judgement, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to
be faithful." If you have no commandment of the Lord, how dare you give
judgement without orders? The Apostle will reply: Do you wish me to give orders where
the Lord has offered a favour rather than laid down a law? The great Creator
and Fashioner, knowing the weakness of the vessel which he made, left virginity
open to those whom He addressed; and shall I, the teacher of the Gentiles, who
have become all things to all men that I might gain all, shall I lay upon the
necks of weak believers from the very first the burden of perpetual chastity ?
Let them[1] begin with short periods of release from the marriage bond, and give
themselves unto prayer, that when they have tasted the sweets of chastity they
may desire the perpetual possession of that wherewith they were temporarily
delighted. The Lord, when tempted by the Pharisees, and asked whether according to
the law of Moses it was permitted to put away a wife, forbade the practice
altogether. After weighing His words the disciples said to Him:[2] " If the case
of the man is so with his wife, it is not expedient to marry. But He said unto
them, all men cannot receive this saying, but they to whom it is given. For
there are eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are
eunuchs, which were made eunuchs by men: and there are eunuchs, which made
themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let
him receive it." The reason is plain why the Apostle said, "concerning virgins
I have no commandment of the Lord." Surely; because the Lord had previously
said "All men cannot receive the word, but they to whom it is given," and "He that
is able to receive it, let him receive it."[3] The Master of the Christian
race offers the reward, invites candidates to the course, holds in His hand the
prize of virginity, points to the fountain of purity, and cries aloud[4]" If any
man thirst, let him come unto me and drink." "He that is able to receive it,
let him receive it." He does not say, you must drink, you must run, willing or
unwilling: but whoever is willing and able to run and to drink, he shall
conquer, he shall be satisfied. And therefore Christ loves virgins more than others,
because they willingly give what was not commanded them. And it indicates
greater grace to offer what you are not bound to give, than to render what is exacted
of you. The apostles, contemplating the burden of a wife, exclaimed, "If the
case of the man is so with his wife, it is not expedient to marry." Our Lord
thought well of their view. You rightly think, said He, that it is not expedient
for a man who is hastening to the kingdom of heaven to take a wife: but it is a
hard matter, and all men do not receive the saying, but they to whom it has
been given. Some are eunuchs by nature, others by the violence of men. Those
eunuchs please Me who are such not of necessity, but of free choice. Willingly do I
take them into my bosom who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of
heaven's sake, and in order to worship Me have renounced the condition of their
birth. We must now explain the words, "Those who have made themselves eunuchs for
the kingdom of heaven's sake." If they who have made themselves eunuchs have
the reward of the kingdom of heaven, it follows that they who have not made
themselves such cannot be placed with those who have. He who is able, he says, to
receive it, let him receive it. It is a mark of great faith and of great virtue,
to be the pure temple of God, to offer oneself a whole burnt-offering, and,
according to the same apostle, to be holy both in body and in spirit. These are
the eunuchs, who thinking themselves dry trees because of their impotence, hear
by the mouth of[1] Isaiah that they have a place prepared in heaven for sons
and daughters. Their type is[2] Ebedmelech the eunuch in Jeremiah, and the eunuch
of Queen Candace in the[3] Acts of the Apostles, who on account of the
strength of his faith gained the name of a man. These are they to whom Clement, who
was the successor of the Apostle Peter, and of whom the Apostle Paul makes
mention, wrote letters, directing almost the whole of his discourse to the subject of
virgin purity. After them there is a long series of apostolic men, martyrs,
and men illustrious no less for holiness than for eloquence, with whom we may
very easily become acquainted through their own writings.[4] "I think, therefore,"
he says, "that this is good for the present distress." What is this distress
which, in contempt of the marriage tie, longs for the liberty of virginity?[5]
"Woe unto them that are with child and to them that give suck in those days." We
have not here a condemnation of harlots and brothels, of whose damnation there
is no doubt, but of the swelling womb, and wailing infancy, the fruit as well
as the work of marriage. "For it is good for a man so to be." If it is good for
a man so to be, it is bad for a man not so to be.[6] "Art thou bound unto a
wife? Seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? Seek not a wife." Each
one of us has his appointed bounds; let me have what is mine, and keep your
own. If thou art bound to a wife, give her not a bill of divorce. If I am loosed
from a wife, I will not seek a wife. As I do not dissolve marriages once
contracted: so you should not bind what is loosed. And at the same time the meaning of
the words must be taken into account. He who has a wife is regarded as a
debtor, and is said to be uncircumcised, to be the servant of his wife, and like bad
servants to be bound. But he who has no wife, in the first place owes no man
anything, then is circumcised, thirdly is free, lastly, is loosed.
13. Let us run through the remaining points, for our author is so
voluminous that we cannot linger over every detail. "But and if thou marry, thou hast
not sinned." It is one thing not to sin, another to do good. "And if a virgin
marry, she hath not sinned." Not that virgin who has once for all dedicated
herself to the service of God: for, should one of these marry, she will have
damnation, because she has made of no account her first faith. But, if our adversary
objects that this saying relates to widows, we reply that it applies with still
greater force to virgins, since marriage is forbidden even to widows whose
previous marriage had been lawful. For virgins who marry after consecration are
rather incestuous than adulterous. And, for fear he should by saying, "And if a
virgin marry, she hath not sinned," again stimulate the unmarried to be married,
he immediately checks himself, and by introducing another consideration,
invalidates his previous concession. "Yet," says he, "such shall have tribulation in
the flesh." Who are they who shall have tribulation in the flesh? They to whom
he had before indulgently said "But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned;
and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Yet such shall have tribulation in
the flesh." We in our inexperience thought that marriage had at least the joys of
the flesh. But if they who are married have tribulation even in the flesh,
which is imagined to be the sole source of their pleasure, what else is there to
marry for, when in the spirit, and in the mind, and in the flesh itself there is
tribulation. "But I would spare you." Thus, he says, I allege tribulation as a
motive, as though there were not greater obligations to refrain. "But this I
say, brethren, the time is shortened, that henceforth both those that have wives
may be as though they had none." I am by no means now discussing virgins, of
whose happiness no one entertains a doubt. I am coming to the married. The time
is short, the Lord is at hand. Even though we lived nine hundred years, as did
men of old, yet we ought to think that short which must one day have an end,
and cease to be. But, as things are, and it is not so much the joy as the
tribulation of marriage that is short, why do we take wives whom we shall soon be
compelled to lose?[1] "And those that weep, and those that rejoice, and those that
buy, and those that use the world, as though they wept not, as though they
rejoiced not, as though they bought not, as though they did not use the world: for
the fashion of this world passeth away." If the world, which comprehends all
things, passes away, yea if the fashion and intercourse of the world vanishes
like the clouds, amongst the other works of the world, marriage too will vanish
away. For after the resurrection there will be no wedlock. But if death be the
end of marriage, why do we not voluntarily embrace the inevitable? And why do we
not, encouraged by the hope of the reward, offer to God that which must be
wrung from us against our will. "He that is unmarried is careful for the things of
the Lord how he may please the Lord: but he that is married is careful for the
things of the world how he may please his wife, and is[1] divided." Let us look
at the difference between the cares of the virgin, and those of the married
man. The virgin longs to please the Lord, the husband to please his wife, and
that he may please her be is careful for the things of the world, which will of
course pass away with the world. "And he is divided," that is to say, is
distracted with manifold cares and miseries. This is not the place to describe the
difficulties of marriage, and to revel in rhetorical commonplaces. I think I
delivered myself fully as regards this point in my argument against[2] Helvidius, and
in the book which I addressed to[3] Eustochium. At all events[4] Tertullian
while still a young man, gave himself full play with this subject. And my
teacher,[5] Gregory of Nazianzus, discussed virginity and marriage in some Greek
verses. I now briefly beg my reader to note that in the Latin manuscripts we have
the reading "there is a difference also between the virgin and the wife." The
words, it is true, have a meaning of their own, and have by me, as well as by
others, been so explained as showing the bearing of the passage. Yet they lack
apostolic authority, since the Apostle's words are as we have translated them--" He
is careful for the things of the world, how he may please his wife,[6] and he
is divided." Having laid down this, he passes to the virgins and the continent,
and says "The woman that is unmarried and a virgin thinks of the things of the
Lord, that she may be holy in body and in spirit." Not every unmarried woman
is also a virgin. But every virgin is of course unmarried. It may be, that
regard for elegance of expression led him to repeat the same idea by means of
another word and speak of "a woman unmarried and a virgin"; or at least he may have
wished to give to "unmarried" the definite meaning of "virgin," so that we might
not suppose him to include harlots, united to no one by the fixed bonds of
wedlock, among the "unmarried." Of what, then, does she that is unmarried and a
virgin think ? "The things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in
spirit." Supposing there were nothing else, and that no greater reward followed
virginity, this would be motive enough for her choice, to think of the things
of the Lord. But he immediately points out the contents of her thought--that
she may be holy both in body and spirit. For there are virgins in the flesh, not
in the spirit, whose body is intact, their soul corrupt. But that virgin is a
sacrifice to Christ, whose mind has not been defiled by thought, nor her flesh
by lust. On the other hand, she who is married thinks of the things of the
world, how she may please her husband. Just as the man who has a wife is anxious for
the things of the world, how he may please his wife, so the married woman
thinks of the things of the world, how she may please her husband. But we are not
of this world, which lieth in wickedness, the fashion of which passeth away, and
concerning which the Lord said to the Apostles,[1] "If ye were of the world,
the world would love its own." And lest perchance someone might suppose that he
was laying the heavy burden of chastity on unwilling shoulders, he at once adds
his reasons for persuading to it, and says:[2] "And this I say for your
profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is seemly, and that
ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction." The Latin words do not convey
the meaning of the Greek. What words shall we use to render
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<greek>euprosedron</greek> <greek>tr</greek> K<greek>uriw</greek>
<greek>aperispastws</greek>The difficulty of translation accounts for the fact that the clause is completely
wanting in Latin manuscripts. Let us, however, use the passage as we have
translated it. The Apostle does not lay a snare upon us, nor does he compel us to
be what we do not wish to be; but he gives his advice as to what is fair and
seemly, he would have us attend upon the Lord and ever be anxious about that
service, and await the Lord's will, so that like active and well-armed soldiers we
may obey orders, and may do so without distraction, which, according to[3]
Ecclesiastes, is given to the men of this world that they may be exercised thereby.
But if anyone considers that his virgin, that is, his flesh, is wanton and
boiling with lust, and cannot be bridled, and he must do one of two things, either
take a wife or fall, let him do what he will, he does not sin if he marry. Let
him do, he says, what he will, not what he ought. He does not sin if he marry a
wife; yet, he does not well if he marry :[1] "But he that standeth stedfast in
his heart, having no necessity, but hath power as touching his own will, and
hath determined this in his own heart, to keep his own virgin, shall do well. So
then both he that giveth his own virgin in marriage doeth well; and he that
giveth her not in marriage shall do better." With marked propriety he had
previously said "He who marries a wife does not sin": here he tells us "He that
keepeth his own virgin doeth well." But it is one thing not to sin, another to do
well.[2] " Depart from evil," he says, "and do good." The former we forsake, the
latter we follow. In this last lies perfection. But whereas he says "and he that
giveth his virgin in marriage doeth well," it might be supposed that our
remark does not hold good; he therefore forthwith detracts from this seeming good
and puts it in the shade by comparing it with another, and saying, "and he that
giveth her not in marriage shall do better." If he had not intended to draw the
inference of doing better, he would never have previously referred to doing
well. But where there is something good and something better, the reward is not in
both cases the same, and where the reward is not one and the same, there of
course the gifts are different. The difference, then, between marriage and
virginity is as great as that between not sinning and doing well; nay rather, to
speak less harshly, as great as between good and better.
14. He has ended his discussion of wedlock and virginity, and has
carefully steered between the two precepts without turning to the right hand or to the
left. He has followed the royal road and fulfilled the command[3] not to be
righteous over much. Now again he compares monogamy with digamy, and as he had
subordinated marriage to virginity, so he makes second marriages inferior to
first, and says,[4] "A wife is bound for so long time as her husband liveth; but if
the husband be dead, she is free to be married to whom she will; only in the
Lord. But she is happier if she abide as she is, after my judgment: and I think
that I also have the Spirit of God." He allows second marriages, but to such
persons as wish for them and are not able to contain; lest,[3] having "waxed
wanton against Christ," they desire to marry, "having condemnation, because they
have rejected their first faith;" and he makes the concession because many had
already turned aside after Satan. [1]" But," says he, "they will be happier if
they abide as they are," and he immediately adds the weight of Apostolic
authority, "after my judgement." And that an Apostle's authority might not, like that of
an ordinary man, be without weight, he added, "and I think that I also have
the Spirit of God." When he incites to continence, it is not by the judgement or
spirit of man, but by the judgement and Spirit of God; when, however, he grants
the indulgence of marriage, he does not mention the Spirit of God, but weighs
his judgement with wisdom, and adapts the severity of the strain to the
weakness of the individual. In this sense we must take the whole of the following
passage:[2] "For the woman that hath a husband is bound by law to the husband while
he liveth;but if the husband die, she is discharged from the law of the
husband. So then if, while the husband liveth, she be joined to another man, she
shall be called an adulteress: but if the husband die, she is free from the law, so
that she is no adulteress, though she be joined to another man." And similarly
the words to Timothy,[3] " I desire therefore that the younger widows marry,
bear children, rule the household, give none occasion to the adversary for
reviling: for already some are turned aside after Satan," and so on. For as on
account of the danger of fornication he allows virgins to marry, and makes that
excusable which in itself is not desirable, so to avoid this same fornication, he
allows second marriages to widows. For it is better to know a single husband,
though he be a second or third, than to have many paramours: that is, it is more
tolerable for a woman to prostitute herself to one man than to many. At all
events this is so if the Samaritan woman in John's Gospel who said she had her
sixth husband was reproved by the Lord because he was not her husband. For where
there are more husbands than one the proper idea of a husband, who is a single
person, is destroyed. At the beginning one rib was turned into one wife. "And
they two, " he says, "shall be one flesh": not three, or four; otherwise, how can
they be any longer two, if they are several. Lamech, a man of blood and a
murderer, was the first who divided one flesh between two wives. Fratricide and
digamy were abolished by the same punishment--that of the deluge. The one was
avenged seven times, the other seventy times seven. The guilt is as widely
different as are the numbers. What the holiness of second marriage is, appears from
this--that a person twice married[1] cannot be enrolled in the ranks of the
clergy, and so the Apostle tells Timothy,[2] "Let none be enrolled as a widow under
threescore years old, having been the wife of one man." The whole command
concerns those widows who are supported on the alms of the Church. The age is
therefore limited, so that those only may receive the food of the poor who can no
longer work. And at the same time, consider that she who has had two husbands, even
though she be a widow, decrepit, and in want, is not a worthy recipient of the
Church's funds. But if she be deprived of the bread of charity, how much more
is she deprived of that bread which cometh down from heaven, and of which if a
man eat unworthily, he shall be guilty of outrage offered to the body and the
blood of Christ?
15. The passages, however, which I have adduced in support of my position
and in which it is permitted to widows, if they so desire, to marry again, are
interpreted by some concerning those widows who had lost their husbands and
were found in that condition when they became Christians. For, supposing a person
baptized and her husband dead, it would not be consistent if the Apostle were
to bid her marry another, when he enjoins even those who have wives to be as
though they had them not. And this is why the number of wives which a man may
take is not defined, because when Christian baptism has been received, even though
a third or a fourth wife has been taken, she is reckoned as the first.
Otherwise, if, after baptism and after the death of a first husband, a second is taken
why should not a sixth after the death of the second, third, fourth, and
fifth, and so on? For it is possible, that through some strange misfortune, or by
the judgement of God cutting short repeated marriages, a young woman may have
several husbands, while an old woman may be left a widow by her first husband in
extreme age. The first Adam was married once: the second was unmarried. Let the
supporters of second marriages shew us as their leader a third Adam who was
twice married. But granted that Paul allowed second marriages: upon the same
grounds it follows that he allows even third and fourth marriages, or a woman may
marry as often as her husband dies. The Apostle was forced to choose many things
which he did not like. He circumcised Timothy, and shaved his own head,
practised going barefoot, let his hair grow long, and cut it at Cenchrea. And he had
certainly chastised the Galatians, and blamed Peter because for the sake of
Jewish observances he separated himself from the Gentiles. As then in other points
connected with the discipline of the Church he was a Jew to Jews, a Gentile to
Gentiles, and was made all things to all men, that he might gain all: so too he
allowed second marriages to incontinent persons, and did not limit the number
of marriages, in order that women, although they saw themselves permitted to
take a second husband, in the same way as a third or a fourth was allowed, might
blush to take a second, lest they should be compared to those who were three or
four times married. If more than one husband be allowed, it makes no
difference whether he be a second or a third, because there is no longer a question of
single marriage.[1] "All things are lawful, but not all things are expedient." I
do not condemn second, nor third, nor, pardon the expression, eighth
marriages: I will go still further and say that I welcome even a penitent whoremonger.
Things that are equally lawful must be weighed in an even balance.
16. But he takes us to the Old Testament, and beginning with Adam goes on
to Zacharias and Elizabeth. He next confronts us with Peter and the rest of the
Apostles. We are therefore bound to traverse the same course of argument and
show that chastity was always preferred to the condition of marriage. And as
regards Adam and Eve we must maintain that before the fall they were virgins in
Paradise: but after they sinned, and were cast out of Paradise, they were
immediately married. Then we have the passage,[2] "For this cause shall a man leave
his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and the twain shall become
one flesh," in explanation of which the Apostle straightway adds,[3] "This
mystery is great, but I speak in regard of Christ, and of the Church." Christ in the
flesh is a virgin, in the spirit he is once married. For he has one Church,
concerning which the same Apostle says,[4] "Husbands, love your wives, even as
Christ also loved the Church." If Christ loves the Church holily, chastely, and
without spot, let husbands also love their wives in chastity. And let everyone
know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour, not in the lust of
concupiscence, as the Gentiles who know not God:[5] "For God called us not for
uncleanness, but in sanctification: seeing that ye have put off the old man
with his doings, and have put on the new man, which is being renewed unto
knowledge after the image of him that created him: where there cannot be male and
female, Greek and Jew, circumcision and uncumcision, barbarian, Scythian, bondman,
free man: but Christ is all, and in all." The link of marriage is not found in
the image of the Creator. When difference of sex is done away, and we are
putting off the old man, and putting on the new, then we are being born again into
Christ a virgin, who was both born of a virgin, and is born again through[1]
virginity. And whereas he says "Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the
earth," it was necessary first to plant the wood and to let it grow, so that there
might be an after-growth for cutting down. And at the same time we must bear in
mind the meaning of the phrase, "replenish the earth." Marriage replenishes the
earth, virginity fills Paradise. This too we must observe, at least if we would
faithfully follow the Hebrew, that while Scripture on the first, third,
fourth, fifth, and sixth days relates that, having finished the works of each, "God
saw that it was good," on the second day it omitted this altogether, leaving us
to understand that two is not a good number because it destroys unity, and
prefigures the marriage compact. Hence it was that all the animals which Noah took
into the ark by pairs were unclean. Odd numbers denote cleanness. And yet by
the double number is represented another mystery: that not even in beasts and
unclean birds is second marriage approved. For unclean animals went in two and
two, and clean ones by sevens, so that Noah after the flood might be able to
immediately offer to God sacrifices from the latter.
17. But if Enoch was translated, and Noah was preserved at the deluge, I
do not think that Enoch was translated because he had a wife, but because he
was[2] the first to call upon God and to believe in the Creator; and the Apostle
Paul fully instructs us concerning him in the Epistle to the Hebrews. Noah,
moreover, who was preserved as a kind of second root for the human race, must of
course be preserved together with his wife and sons, although in this there is a
Scripture mystery. The ark,[3] according to the Apostle Peter, was a type of
the Church, in which eight souls were saved. When Noah entered into it, both he
and his sons were separated from their wives; but when he landed from it, they
united in pairs, and what had been separated in the ark, that is, in the Church,
was joined together in the intercourse of the world. And at the same time if
the ark had many compartments and little chambers, and was made with second and
third stories, and was filled with different beasts, and was furnished with
dwellings, great or small, according to the kind of animal, I think all this
diversity in the compartments was a figure of the manifold character of the Church.
18. He raises the objection that when God gave his second blessing,
permission was granted to eat flesh, which had not in the first benediction been
allowed. He should know that just as divorce according to the Saviour's word was
not permitted from the beginning, but on account of the hardness of our heart was
a concession of Moses to the human race, so too the eating of flesh was
unknown until the deluge. But after the deluge, like the quails given in the desert
to the murmuring people, the poison of flesh-meat was offered to our teeth. The
Apostle writing to the Ephesians[1] teaches that God had purposed in the
fulness of time to sum up and renew in Christ Jesus all things which are in heaven
and in earth. Whence also the Saviour himself in the Revelation of John says,[2]
"I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the ending." At the beginning of the
human race we neither ate flesh, nor gave bills of divorce, nor suffered
circumcision for a sign. Thus we reached the deluge. But after the deluge, together
with the giving of the law which no one could fulfil, flesh was given for food,
and divorce was allowed to hard-hearted men, and the knife of circumcision was
applied, as though the hand of God had fashioned us with something superfluous.
But once Christ has come in the end of time, and Omega passed into Alpha and
turned the end into the beginning, we are no longer allowed divorce, nor are we
circumcised, nor do we eat flesh, for the Apostle says,[3] "It is good not to
eat flesh, nor to drink wine." For wine as well as flesh was consecrated after
the deluge.
19. What shall I say of Abraham who had three wives, as Jovinianus says,
and received circumcision as a sign of his faith ? If we follow him in the
number of his wives, let us also follow him in circumcision. We must not partly
follow, partly reject him. Isaac, moreover, the husband of one wife, Rebecca,
prefigures the Church of Christ, and reproves the wantonness of second marriage. And
if Jacob had two pairs of wives and concubines, and our opponent will not
admit that blear-eyed Leah, ugly and prolific, was a type of the synagogue, but
that Rachel, beautiful and long barren, indicated the mystery of the Church, let
me remind him that when Jacob did this thing he was among the Assyrians, and in
Mesopotamia in bondage to a hard master. But when he wished to enter the holy
land, he raised on Mount Galeed[1] the heap of witness, in token that the lord
of Mesopotamia had failed to find anything among his baggage, and there swore
that he would never return to the place of his bondage; and when,[2] after
wrestling with the angel at the brook Jabbok, he began to limp, because the great
muscle of his thigh was withered, he at once gained the name of Israel.[3] Then
the wife whom he once loved, and for whom he had served, was slain by the son of
sorrow near Bethlehem which was destined to be the birthplace of our Lord, the
herald of virginity: and the intimacies of Mesopotamia died in the land of the
Gospel.
20. But I wonder why he set[4] Judah and Tamar before us for an example,
unless perchance even harlots give him pleasure; or[5] Onan who was slain
because he grudged his brother seed. Does he imagine that we approve of any sexual
intercourse except for the procreation of children? As regards Moses, it is clear
that he would have been in peril at the inn, if[6] Sephora which is by
interpretation a bird, had not circumcised her son, and cut off the foreskin of
marriage with the knife which prefigured the Gospel. This is that Moses who when he
saw a great vision and heard an angel, or the Lord speaking in the bush,[7]
could not by any means approach to him without first loosing the latchet of his
shoe, that is, putting off the bonds of marriage. And we need not be surprised at
this in the case of one who was a prophet, lawgiver, and the friend of God,
seeing that all the people when about to draw nigh to Mount Sinai, and to hear the
voice speaking to them, were commanded to sanctify themselves in three days, I
and keep themselves from their wives. I am out of order in violating
historical sequence, but I may point out that the same thing was said by[8] Ahimelech
the priest to David when he fled to Nob: "If only the young men have kept
themselves from women." And David answered," of a truth about these three days." For
the shew-bread, like the body of Christ, might not be eaten by those who rose
from the marriage bed. And in passing we ought to consider the words "if only the
young men have kept themselves from women." The truth is that, in view of the
purity of the body of Christ, all sexual intercourse is unclean. In the law
also it is enjoined that the[9] high priest must not marry any but a virgin, nor
must he take to wife a widow. If a virgin and a widow are on the same level, how
is it that one is taken, the other rejected?[1] And the widow of a priest is
bidden abide in the house of her father, and not to contract a second
marriage.[2] If the sister of a priest dies in virginity, just as the priest is commanded
to go to the funeral of his father and mother, so must he go to hers. But if
she be married, she is despised as though she belonged not to him. He who has[3]
married a wife, and he who has planted a vineyard, an image of the propagation
of children, is forbidden to go to the battle. For he who is the slave of his
wife cannot be the Lord's soldier. And the layer in the tabernacle was cast
from the mirrors of the women who[4] fasted, signifying the bodies of pure
virgins: And within,[5] in the sanctuary, both cherubim, and mercy-seat, and the ark
of the covenant, and the table of shew-bread, and the candle-stick, and the
censer, were made of the purest gold. For silver might not be brought into the holy
of holies.
21. I must not linger over Moses when my purpose is at full speed to
lightly touch on each topic and to sketch the outline of a proper knowledge of my
subject. I will pass to Joshua the son of Nun, who was previously called Ause, or
better, as in the Hebrew, Osee, that is, Saviour. For he,[6] according to the
epistle of Jude, saved the people of Israel and led them forth out of Egypt,
and brought them into the land of promise. As soon as this Joshua[7] reached the
Jordan, the waters of marriage, which had ever flowed in the land, dried up and
stood in one heap; and the whole people, barefooted and on dry ground, crossed
over, and came to Gilgal, and there was a second time circumcised. If we take
this literally, it cannot possibly stand. For if we had two foreskins, or if
another could grow after the first was cut off, there would be room for speaking
of a second circumcision. But the meaning is that Joshua circumcised the people
who had crossed the desert, with the Gospel knife, and he circumcised them
with a stone knife, that what in the case of Moses' son was prefigured in a few
might under Joshua be fulfilled in all. Moreover, the very foreskins were heaped
together and buried, and covered with earth, and the fact that the reproach of
Egypt was taken away, and the name of the place, Gilgal, which is by
interpretation[1] revelation show that while the people wandered in the desert
uncircumcised their eyes were blinded Let us see what follows. After this Gospel
circumcision and the consecration of twelve stones at the place of revelation, the
Passover was immediately celebrated, a lamb was slain for them, and they ate the
food of the Holy Land. Joshua went forth, and was met by the Prince of the host,
sword in hand, that is either to shew that he was ready to fight for the
circumcised people, or to sever the tie of marriage. And in the same way that Moses
was commanded, so was he:[2] " loose thy shoe, for the place whereon thou
standest is holy ground." For if the armed host of the Lord was represented by the
trumpets of the priests, we may see in Jericho a type of the overthrow of the
world by the preaching of the Gospel. And to pass over endless details (for it is
not my purpose now to unfold all the mysteries of the Old Testament),[3] five
kings who previously reigned in the land of promise, and opposed the Gospel
army, were overcome in battle with Joshua. I think it is clearly to be understood
that before the Lord led his people from Egypt and circumcised them, sight,
smell, taste, hearing, and touch had the dominion, and that to these, as to five
princes, everything was subject. And when they[4] took refuge in the cave of the
body and in a place of darkness, Jesus entered the body itself and slew them,
that the source of their power might be the instrument of their death.
22. But it is now time for us to raise the standard of Joshua's chastity.
It is written that Moses had a wife. Now Moses is interpreted both by our Lord
and by the Apostle to mean the law:[5] "They have Moses and the prophets."
And[6] " Death reigned from Adam until Moses, even over them that had not sinned
after the likeness of Adam's transgression." And no one doubts that in both
passages Moses signifies the law. We read that Moses, that is the law, had a wife:
shew me then in the same way that Joshua the son of Nun had either wife or
children, and if you can do so, I will confess that I am beaten. He certainly
received the fairest spot in the division of the land of Judah, and died, not in the
twenties, which are ever unlucky in Scripture--by them are reckoned the years
of[1] Jacob's service,[2] the price of Joseph, and[3] sundry presents which Esau
who was fond of them received-but in the[4] tens, whose praises we have often
sung; and he was buried in[5] Thamnath Sore, that is, most perfect sovereignty,
or among those of a new covering, to signify the crowds of virgins, covered by
the Saviour's aid on Mount Ephraim, that is, the fruitful mountain; on the
north of the Mountain of Gaash, which is, being interpreted, disturbance: for[6] "
Mount Sion is on the sides of the north, the city of the Great King," is ever
exposed to hatred, and in every trial says[7] "But my feet had well nigh
slipped." The book which bears the name of Joshua ends with his burial. Again in the
book of Judges we read of him as though he had risen and come to life again,
and by way of summary his works are extolled. We read too[8] "So Joshua sent the
people away, every man unto his inheritance. that they might possess the land."
And "Israel served the Lord all the days of Joshua," and so on. There
immediately follows: "And Joshua the son of Nun, the servant of the Lord, died, being
an hundred and ten years old." Moses, moreover, only saw the land of promise; he
could not enter: and[9] "he died in the land of Moab, and the Lord buried him
in the valley in the land of Moab over against Beth-peor: but no man knoweth of
his sepulchre unto this day." Let us compare the burial of the two: Moses died
in the land of Moab, Joshua in the land of Judaea. The former was buried in a
valley over against the house of Phogor, which is, being interpreted, reproach
(for the Hebrew Phogor corresponds to Priapus[10]); the latter in Mount Ephraim
on the north of Mount Gaash. And in the simple expressions of the sacred
Scriptures there is always a more subtle meaning. The Jews gloried in children and
child-bearing; and the barren woman, who had not offspring in Israel, was
accursed; but blessed was he whose seed was in Sion, and his family in Jerusalem; and
part of the highest blessing was,[11] "Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine,
in the innermost parts of thy house, thy children like olive plants, round about
thy table." Therefore his grave is described as placed in a valley over
against the house of an idol which was in a special sense consecrated to lust. But we
who fight under Joshua our leader, even to the present day know not where
Moses was buried. For we despise Phogor, and all his shame, knowing that they who
are in the flesh cannot please God. And the Lord before the flood had said[1] "
My spirit shall not abide in man for ever, for that he also is flesh."
Wherefore, when Moses died, the people of Israel mourned for him but Joshua like one on
his way to victory was unmourned. For marriage ends at death; virginity
thereafter begins to wear the crown.
23. Next he brings forward Samson, and does not consider that the Lord's
Nazarite was once shaven bald by a woman. And although Samson continues to be a
type of the Saviour because he loved a harlot from among the Gentiles, which
harlot corresponds to the Church, and because he slew more enemies in his death
than he did in his life, yet he does not set an example of conjugal chastity.
And he surely reminds us[2] of Jacob's prophecy--he was shaken by his runaway
steed, bitten by an adder and fell backwards. But why he enumerated Deborah, and
Barak, and the wife. of Heber the Kenite, I am at a loss to understand. For it
is one thing to draw up a list of military commanders in historical sequence,
another to indicate certain figures of marriage which cannot be found in them.
And whereas he prefers the fidelity of the father Jephthah to the tears of the
virgin daughter, that makes for us. For we are not commending virgins of the
world so much as those who are virgins for Christ's sake, and most Hebrews blame
the father for the rash vow he made,[3] "If thou wilt indeed deliver the children
of Ammon into mine hand, then it shall be, that whatsoever cometh forth of the
doors of my house to meet me, when I return in peace from the children of
Ammon, it shall be for the Lord's, and I will offer it up for a burnt offering."
Supposing (they say) a dog or an ass had met him, what would he have done? Their
meaning is that God so ordered events that he who had improvidently made a vow,
should learn his error by the death of his daughter. And if Samuel who was
brought up in the tabernacle married a wife, how does that prejudice virginity ?
As if at the present day also there were not many married priests, and as though
the Apostle did not[4] describe a bishop as the husband of one wife, having
children with all purity. At the same time we must not forget that Samuel was a
Levite, not a priest or high-priest. Hence it was that his mother made for him a
linen ephod, that is, a linen garment to go over the shoulders, which was the
proper dress of the Levites and of the inferior order. And so he is not named
in the Psalms among the priests, but among those who call upon the name of the
Lord:[1] "Moses and Aaron among his priests, and Samuel among those who call
upon his name." For[2] Levi begat Kohath, Kohath begat Amminadab, Amminadab begat
Korah, Korah begat Assir, Assir begat Elkanah, Elkanah begat Zuph, Zuph begat
Tahath, Tahath begat Eliel, Eliel begat Jeroham, Jeroham begat Elkanah, Elkanah
begat Samuel. And no one doubts that the priests sprang from the stock of
Aaron, Eleazar, and Phinees. And seeing that they had wives, they would be rightly
brought against us, if, led away by the error of the Encratites, we were to
maintain that marriage deserved censure, and our high priest were not after the
order of Melchizedek, without father, without mother,[3]
A<greek>genealoghtos</greek>', that is, unmarried. And much fruit truly did Samuel reap from his
children! he himself pleased God, but[4] begat such children as displeased the Lord.
But if in support of second marriage, he urges the instance of Boaz and Ruth,
let him know that in the Gospel (S. Matt. i. 6) to typify the Church even Rahab
the harlot is reckoned among our Lord's ancestors.
24. He boasts that David bought his wife for two hundred foreskins. But he
should remember that David had numerous other wives, and afterwards received
Michal, Saul's daughter, whom her father had delivered to another, and when he
was old got heat from the embrace of the Shunammite maiden. And I do not say
this because I am bold enough to disparage holy men, but because it is one thing
to live under the law, another to live under the Gospel. David slew Uriah the
Hittite and committed adultery with Bathsheba. And because he was a man of
blood--the reference is not, as some think, to his wars, but to the[5] murder--he was
not permitted to build a temple of the Lord. But as for us,[6] if we cause one
of the least to stumble, and if we say to a brother[7] Raca, or[8] use our
eyes improperly, it were good that a millstone were hanged about our neck, we
shall be in danger of Gehenna, and a mere glance will be reckoned to us for
adultery. He passes on to Solomon, through whom wisdom itself sang its own praises.
Seeing that not content with dwelling upon his praises, he calls him uxorious, I
am surprised that he did not add the words of the Canticles:[1] "There are
threescore queens, and fourscore concubines, and maidens without number," and those
of the First Book of Kings;[2] And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and
three hundred concubines, and others without number." These are they who
turned away his heart from the Lord: and yet before he had many wives, and fell into
sins of the flesh, at the beginning of his reign and in his early years he
built a temple to the Lord. For every one is judged not for what he will be, but
for what he is. But if Jovinianus approves the example of Solomon, he will no
longer be in favour of second and third marriages only, but unless he has seven
hundred wives and three hundred concubines, he cannot be the king's antitype or
attain to his merit. I earnestly again and again remind you, my reader, that I
am compelled to speak as I do, and that I do not disparage our predecessors
under the law, but am well aware that they served their generation according to
their circumstances, and fulfilled the Lord's command to increase, and multiply,
and replenish the earth. And what is more they were figures of those that were
to come. But we to whom it is said,[3] "The time is shortened, that henceforth
those that have wives may be as though they had none," have a different
command, and for us virginity is consecrated by the Virgin Saviour.
25. What folly it was to include Elijah and Elisha in a list of married
men, is plain without a word from me. For, since John Baptist came in the spirit
and power of Elijah, and John was a virgin, it is clear that he came not only
in Elijah's spirit, but also in his bodily chastity. Then the passage relating
to Hezekiah might be adduced (though Jovinianus with his wonted stupidity did
not notice it), in which after his recovery and the addition of fifteen years to
his life he said, "Now will I beget children." It must be remembered, however,
that in the Hebrew texts the passage is not so, but runs thus:[4] "The father
to the children shall make known thy faithfulness." Nor need we wonder that
Huldah, the prophetess, and wife of Shallum, was[5] consulted by Josiah, King of
Judah, when the captivity was approaching and the wrath of the Lord was falling
upon Jerusalem: since it is the rule of Scripture when holy men fail, to praise
women to the reproach of men. And it is superfluous to speak of Daniel, for the
Hebrews to the present day affirm that the three youths were eunuchs, in
accordance with the declaration of God which Isaiah utters to Hezekiah:[1] "And of
thy sons that shall issue from thee, which thou shalt beget, shall they take
away: and they shall be eunuchs in the palace of the King of Babylon." And again
in Daniel we read:[2] "And the king spake unto Ashpenaz the master of his
eunuchs, that he should bring in certain of the children of Israel, even of the seed
royal and of the nobles: youth in whom was no blemish, but well favoured, and
skilful in all wisdom, and cunning in knowledge, and understanding science." The
conclusion is that if Daniel and the three youths were chosen from the seed
royal, and if Scripture foretold that that there should be eunuchs of the seed
royal, these men were those who were made eunuchs. If he meets us with the
argument that in Ezekiel[3] it is said that Noah, Daniel and Job in a sinful land
could not free their sons and daughters, we reply that the words are used
hypothetically. Noah and Job were not in existence at that time: we know that they
lived many ages before. And the meaning is this: if there were such and such men in
a sinful land, they shall not be able to save their own sons and daughters:
because the righteousness of the father shall not save the son, nor shall the sin
of one be imputed to another.[4] " For the soul that sinneth, it shall die."
This, too, must be said, that Daniel, as the history of his book shows, was
taken captive with King Jehoiakim at the same time that Ezekiel was also led into
captivity. How then could he have sons who was still a youth ? And only three
years had elapsed when he was brought in to wait upon the king. Let no one
suppose that Ezekiel at this time remembers Daniel as a man, not as a youth; for "It
came to pass," he says,[5] "in the sixth year," that is of King Jehoiakim, "in
the sixth month, in the fifth day of the month :" and, "as I sat in my house,
and the eiders of Judah sat before me." Yet on that same day it was said to
him,[6] " Though these three men, Noah, Daniel, and Job were in it." Daniel was
therefore a youth, and known to the people, either on account of his
interpretation of the king's dreams,[7] or on account of the release of Susannah, and the
slaying of the elders. And it is clearly proved that at the time these things
were spoken of Noah, Daniel, and Job, Daniel was still a youth and could not have
had sons and daughters, whom he might save by his righteousness. So far
concerning the Law.
26. Coming to the Gospel he sets before us Zacharias and Elizabeth, Peter
and his mother-in-law, and, with a shamelessness to which we have now grown
accustomed, fails to understand that they, too, ought to have been reckoned among
those who served the Law. For the Gospel had no being before the crucifixion of
Christ--it was consecrated by His passion and by His blood. In accordance with
this rule Peter and the other Apostles (I must give Jovinianus something now
and then out of my abundance) had indeed wives, but those which they had taken
before they knew the Gospel. But once they were received into the Apostolate,
they forsook the offices of marriage. For when Peter, representing the Apostles,
says to the Lord:[1] "Lo we have left all and followed thee," the Lord answered
him,[2] "Verily I say unto you, there is no man that hath left house or wife,
or brethren, or parents, or children for the kingdom of God's sake, who shall
not receive manifold more in this time, and in the world to come eternal life."
But if, in order to show that all the Apostles had wives, he meets us with the
words[3] "Have we no right to lead about women or wives" (for
<greek>gunh</greek> in Greek has both meanings) "even as the rest of the apostles, and Cephas,
and the brethren of the Lord?" let him add what is found in the Greek copies,
"Have we no right to lead about women that are sisters, or wives?" This makes it
clear that the writer referred to other holy women, who, in accordance with
Jewish custom, ministered to their teachers of their substance, as we read was the
practice with even our Lord himself. Where there is a previous reference to
eating and drinking, and the outlay of money, and mention is afterwards made of
women that are sisters, it is quite clear, as we have said, that we must
understand, not wives, but those women who ministered of their substance. And we read
the same account in the Old Testament of the Shunammite who was wont to welcome
Elisha, and to put for him a table, and bread, and a candlestick, and the
rest. At all events if we take <greek>gunaikas</greek>> to mean wives, not women,
the addition of the word sisters destroys the effect of the word wives, and
shews that they were related in spirit, not by wedlock. Nevertheless, with the
exception of the Apostle Peter, it is not openly stated that the Apostles had
wives; and since the statement is made of one while nothing is said about the rest,
we must understand that those of whom Scripture gives no such description had
no wives. Yet Jovinianus, who has arrayed against us Zacharias and Elizabeth,
Peter and his wife's mother, should know, that John was the son of Zacharias and
Elizabeth, that is, a virgin was the offspring of marriage, the Gospel of the
law, chastity of matrimony; so that by a virgin prophet the virgin Lord might be
both announced and baptized. But we might say concerning Peter, that he had a
mother-in-law when he believed, and no longer had a wife, although in the[1]
"Sentences" we read of both his wife and daughter. But for the present our
argument must be based wholly on Scripture. He has made his appeal to the Apostles,
because he thinks that they, who hold the chief authority in our moral system
and are the typical Christian teachers, were not virgins. If, then, we allow that
they were not virgins (and, with the exception of Peter, the point cannot be
proved), yet I must tell him that it is to the Apostles that the words of Isaiah
relate:[2] "Except the Lord of hosts had left unto us a small remnant, we
should have been as Sodom, we should have been like unto Gomorrah." So, then, they
who were by birth Jews could not under the Gospel recover the virginity which
they had lost in Judaism. And yet John, one of the disciples, who is related to
have been the youngest of the Apostles, and who was a virgin when he embraced
Christianity, remained a virgin, and on that account was more beloved by our
Lord, and lay upon the breast of Jesus. And what Peter, who had had a wife, did
not dare ask,[3] he requested John to ask. And after the resurrection, when Mary
Magdalene told them that the Lord had risen,[4] they both ran to the sepulchre,
but John outran Peter. And when they were fishing in the ship on the lake of
Gennesaret, Jesus stood upon the shore, and the Apostles knew not who it was
they saw;[5] the virgin alone recognized a virgin, and said to Peter, "It is the
Lord." Again, after hearing the prediction that he must be bound by another, and
led whither he would not, and must suffer on the cross. Peter said, "Lord what
shall this man do?" being unwilling to desert John, with whom he had always
been united. Our Lord said to him, "What is that to thee if I wish him so to be?"
Whence the saying went abroad among the brethren that that disciple should not
die. Here we have a proof that virginity does not die, and that the defilement
of marriage is not washed away by the blood of martyrdom, but virginity abides
with Christ, and its sleep is not death but a passing to another state. If,
however, Jovinianus should obstinately contend that John was not a virgin,
(whereas we have maintained that his virginity was the cause of the special love our
Lord bore to him), let him explain, if he was not a virgin, why it was that he
was loved more than the other Apostles. But you say,[1] the Church was rounded
upon Peter: although[2] elsewhere the same is attributed to all the Apostles,
and they all receive the keys of the kingdom of heaven, and the strength of the
Church depends upon them all alike, yet one among the twelve is chosen so that
when a head has been appointed, there may be no occasion for schism. But why
was not John chosen, who was a virgin? Deference was paid to age, because Peter
was the eider: one who was a youth, I may say almost a boy, could not be set
over men of advanced age; and a good master who was bound to remove every occasion
of strife among his disciples, and who had said to them,[3] " Peace I leave
with you, my peace I give unto you," and, 4 " He that is the greater among you,
let him be the least of all," would not be thought to afford cause of envy
against the youth whom he had loved. We maybe sure that John was then a boy because
ecclesiastical history most clearly proves that he lived to the reign of
Trajan, that is, he fell asleep in the sixty-eighth year after our Lord's passion, as
I have briefly noted in my treatise on Illustrious Men.[5] Peter is an
Apostle, and John is an Apostle--the one a married man, the other a virgin; but Peter
is an Apostle only, John is both an Apostle and an Evangelist, and a prophet.
An Apostle, because he wrote to the Churches as a master; an Evangelist, because
he composed a Gospel, a thing which no other of the Apostles, excepting
Matthew, did; a prophet, for he saw in the island of Patmos, to which he had been
banished by the Emperor Domitian as a martyr for the Lord, an Apocalypse
containing the boundless mysteries of the future Tertullian, moreover, relates that he
was sent to Rome, and that having been plunged into a jar of boiling oil he came
out fresher and more active than when he went in. But his very Gospel is
widely different from the rest. Matthew as though he were writing of a man begins
thus: "The book of the Generation of Jesus Christ, the son of David, the son of
Abraham ;" Luke begins with the priesthood of Zacharias; Mark with a prophecy of
the prophets Malachi and Isaiah. The first has the face of a man, on account
of the genealogical table; the second, the face of a calf, on account of the
priesthood; the third, the face of a lion, on account of the voice of one crying
in the desert,[1] " Prepare ye the way of the Lord, make His paths straight."
But John like an eagle soars aloft, and reaches the Father Himself, and says,[2]
" In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was
God. The same was in the beginning with God," and so on. The virgin writer
expounded mysteries which the married could not, and to briefly sum up all and show
how great was the privilege of John, or rather of virginity in John, the Virgin
Mother[3] was entrusted by the Virgin Lord to the Virgin disciple.
27. But we toil to no purpose. For our opponent urges against us the
Apostolic sentence and says,[4] "Adam was first formed, then Eve; and Adam was not
beguiled, but the woman being beguiled hath fallen into transgression: but she
shall be saved through the child-bearing, if they continue in faith and love and
sanctification with sobriety." Let us consider what led the Apostle to make
this declaration:[5] "I desire therefore that the men pray in every place,
lifting up holy hands, without wrath and disputing." So in due course he lays down
rules of life for the women and says "In like manner that women adorn themselves
in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, and
gold or pearls or costly raiment; but (which becometh women professing
godliness) through good works. Let a woman learn in quietness with all subjection. But
I permit not a woman to teach, nor to have dominion over a man, but to be in
quietness." And that the lot of a woman might not seem a hard one, reducing her
to the condition of a slave to her husband, the Apostle recalls the ancient law
and goes back to the first example: that Adam was first made, then the woman
out of his rib; and that the Devil could not seduce Adam, but did seduce Eve;
and that after displeasing God she was immediately subjected to the man, and
began to turn to her husband; and he points out that she who was once tied with the
bonds of marriage and was reduced to the condition of Eve, might blot out the"
old transgression by the[1] procreation of children: provided, however, that
she bring up the children themselves in the faith and love of Christ, and in
sanctification and chastity; for we must not adopt the faulty reading of the Latin
texts, sobrietas, but castitas, that is,[2] <greek>swfrosunh</greek>. You see
how you are mastered by the witness of this passage also, and cannot but be
driven to admit that what you thought was on the side of marriage tells in favour
of virginity. For if the woman is saved in child-bearing, and the more the
children the greater the safety of the mothers, why did he add "if they continue in
faith and love and sanctification with chastity"? The woman will then be
saved, if she bear not children who will remain virgins: if what she has herself
lost, she attains in her children, and makes up for the loss and decay, of the
root by the excellence of the flower and fruit.
28. Above, in passing, when our opponent adduced Solomon, who, although he
had many wives, nevertheless built the temple, I briefly replied that it was
my intention to run over the remaining points. Now that he may not cry out that
both Solomon and others under the law, prophets and holy men, have been
dishonoured by us, let us show what this very man with his many wives and concubines
thought of marriage. For no one can know better than he who suffered through
them, what a wife or woman is. Well then, he says in the Proverbs:[3] "The foolish
and bold woman comes to want bread." What bread? Surely that bread which
cometh down from heaven: and he immediately adds[4] "The earth-born perish in her
house, rush into the depths of hell." Who are the earth-born that perish in her
house? They of course who follow the first Adam, who is of the earth, and not
the second, who is from heaven. And again in another place: "Like a worm in wood,
so a wicked woman destroyeth her husband." But if you assert that this was
spoken of bad wives, I shall briefly answer: What necessity rests upon me to run
the risk of the wife I marry proving good or bad?[5] "It is better," he says,
"to dwell in a desert land, than with a contentious and passionate woman in a
wide house." How seldom we find a wife without these faults, he knows who is
married. Hence that sublime orator, Varius Geminus[6] says well "The man who does
not quarrel is a bachelor.[1] "It is better to dwell in the corner of the
housetop, than with a contentious woman in a house in common." If a house common to
husband and wife makes a wife proud and breeds contempt for the husband: how
much more if the wife be the richer of the two, and the husband but a lodger in
her house! She begins to be not a wife, but mistress of the house; and if she
offend her husband, they must part.[2] "A continual dropping on a wintry day"
turns a man out of doors, and so will a contentious woman drive a man from his own
house. She floods his house with her constant nagging and daily chatter, and
ousts him from his own home, that is the Church. Hence the same Solomon
previously commands:[3] "My son flows forth beyond." And the Apostle, writing to the
Hebrews, says "Therefore we ought to give the more earnest heed to the things
spoken, lest haply we flow forth beyond." But who can hide from himself what is
thus enigmatically expressed?[4] "The horseleech had three I daughters, dearly
loved, but they satisfied her not, and a fourth is not satisfied when you say
Enough; the grave, and woman's love, and the earth that is not satisfied with
water, and the fire that saith not, Enough." The horse-leech is the devil, the
daughters of the devil are dearly loved, and they cannot be satisfied with the
blood of the slain: the grave, and woman's love, and the earth dry and scorched
with heat. It is not the harlot, or the adulteress who is spoken of; but woman's
love in general is accused of ever being insatiable; put it out, it bursts into
flame; give it plenty, it is again in need; it enervates a man's mind, and
engrosses all thought except for the passion which it feeds. What we read in the
parable which follows is to the same effect: "For three things the earth cloth
tremble, and for four which it cannot bear: for a servant when he is king: and a
fool when he is filled with meat: for an odious woman when she is married to a
good husband: and an handmaid that is heir to her mistress." See how a wife is
classed with the greatest evils. But if you reply that it is an odious wife, I
will give you the same answer as before--the mere possibility of such danger is
in itself no light matter. For he who marries a wife is uncertain whether he
is marrying an odious woman or one worthy of his love. If she be odious, she is
intolerable. If worthy of love, her love is compared to the grave, to the
parched earth, and to fire.
29. Let us come to Ecclesiastes and adduce a few corroborative passages
from him also.[1] "To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose
under the heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die: a time to plant, and a
time to pluck up that which is planted." We brought forth young under the law
with Moses, let us die under the Gospel with Christ. We planted in marriage, let
us by chastity pluck up that which was planted. "A time to embrace, and a time
to refrain from embracing: a time to love, and a time to hate: a time for war,
and a time for peace." And at the same time he warns us not to prefer the law
to the Gospel; nor to think that virgin purity is to be placed on a level with
marriage:[2] " Better," he says, "is the end of a thing than the beginning
thereof." And he immediately adds: "Say not thou, what is the cause that the former
days were better than these? for thou dost not inquire wisely concerning this."
And he gives the reason why the latter days are better than the former:[3] "
For wisdom with an inheritance is good." Under the law carnal wisdom was
followed by the sword of death;under the Gospel an eternal inheritance awaits
spiritual wisdom. "Behold, this have I found,[4] saith the Preacher, one man among a
thousand have I found; but a woman among all those have I not found. Behold this
only have I found, that God made man upright; but they have sought out many
inventions." He says that he had found man upright. Consider the force of the
words. The word man comprehends both male and female. "But a woman," he says,
"among all these have I not found." Let us read the beginning of Genesis, and we
shall find Adam, that is man, called both male and female. Having then been
created by God good and upright, by our own fault we have fallen to a worse
condition; and that which in Paradise had been upright, when we left Paradise was
corrupt. If you object that before they sinned there was a distinction in sex
between male and female, and that they could without sin have come together, it is
uncertain what might have happened. For we cannot know the judgements of God,
and anticipate his sentence as we choose. What really happened is plain
enough,--that they who in Paradise remained in perpetual virginity, when they were
expelled from Paradise were joined together. Or if Paradise admits of marriage, and
there is no difference between marriage and virginity, what prevented their
previous intercourse even in Paradise? They are driven out of Paradise; and what
they did not there, they do on earth; so that from the very earliest days of
humanity virginity was consecrated by Paradise, and marriage by earth.[1] "Let thy
garments be always white." The eternal whiteness of our garments is the purity
of virginity. In the morning we sowed our seed, and in the evening let us not
cease. Let us who served marriage under the law, serve virginity under the
Gospel.
30. I pass to the Song of Songs, and whereas our opponent thinks it makes
altogether for marriage, I shall show that it contains the mysteries of
virginity. Let us hear what the bride says before that the bridegroom comes to earth,
suffers, descends to the lower world, and rises again.[2] "We will make for
thee likenesses of gold with ornaments of silver while the king sits at his
table." Before the Lord rose again, and the Gospel shone, the bride had not gold, but
likenesses of gold. As for the silver, however, which she professes to have at
the marriage, she not only had silver ornaments, but she had them in
variety--in widows, in the continent, and in the married. Then the bridegroom makes
answer to the bride, and teaches her that the shadow of the old law has passed
away, and the truth of the Gospel has come.[3] " Rise up, my love my fair one, and
come away, for lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone." This relates
to the Old Testament. Once more he speaks of the Gospel and of virginity: "The
flowers appear on the earth, the time of the pruning of vines has come." Does
he not seem to you to say the very same thing that the Apostle says:[4] "The
time is shortened that henceforth both those that have wives may be as though
they had none "? And more plainly does he herald chastity:[5] "The voice," he
says, "of the turtle is heard in our land." The turtle, the chastest of birds,
always dwelling in lofty places, is a type of the Saviour. Let us read the works of
naturalists and we shall find that it is the nature of the turtle-dove, if it
lose its mate, not to take another; and we shall understand that second
marriage is repudiated even by dumb birds. And immediately the turtle says to its
fellow:[6] "The fig tree hath put forth its green figs," that is, the commandments
of the old law have fallen, and the blossoming vines of the Gospel give forth
their fragrance. Whence the Apostle also says,[1] "We are a sweet savour of
Christ."[2] " Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away. O my dove, thou art in
the clefts of the rock, in the covert of the steep place. Let me see thy
countenance, let me hear thy voice; for sweet is thy voice, and thy countenance is
comely."[3] Whilst thou coveredst thy countenance like Moses and the veil of the
law remained, I neither saw thy face, nor did I condescend to hear thy voice. I
said,[4] "Yea, when ye make many prayers, I will not hear." But now with
unveiled face behold my glory, and shelter thyself in the cleft and steep places of
the solid rock. On hearing this the bride disclosed the mysteries of chastity:[6]
" My beloved is mine, and I am his: he feedeth his flock among the lilies,"
that is among the pure virgin bands. Would you know what sort of a throne our
true Solomon, the Prince of Peace, has, and what his attendants are like?[6]
"Behold," he says, "it is the litter of Solomon: threescore mighty men are about
it, of the mighty men of Israel. They all handle the sword, and are expert in
war: every man hath his sword upon his thigh." They who are about Solomon have
their sword upon their thigh, like Ehud, the left-handed judge, who slew the
fattest of foes, a man devoted to the flesh, and cut short all his pleasures.[7] "I
will get me," he says, "to the mountain of myrrh;" to those, that is, who have
mortified their bodies; "and to the hill of frankincense," to the crowds of
pure virgins; "and I will say to my bride, thou art all fair, my love, and there
is no spot in thee." Whence too the Apostle:[8] "That he might present the
church to himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle, or any such
thing."[9] "Come with me from Lebanon, my bride, with me from Lebanon. Thou shalt
come[10] and pass on from the beginning of faith, from the top of Sanir and Hermon,
from the lions' dens, from the mountains of the leopards." Lebanon is, being
interpreted, whiteness. Come then, fairest bride, concerning whom it is
elsewhere said[11] "Who is she that cometh up, all in white?" and pass on by way of
this world, from the beginning of faith, and from Sanir, which is by
interpretation, God of light, as we read in the psalm:[12] "Thy word is a lantern unto my
feet, and light unto my path;" and "from Hermon," that is, consecration: and
"flee from the lions' dens, and the mountains of the leopards who cannot change
their spots." Flee, he says, from the lions' dens, flee from the pride of devils,
that when thou hast been consecrated to me, I may be able to say unto thee:[1]
"Thou hast ravished my heart, my sister, my bride, thou hast ravished mine
heart with one of thine eyes, with one chain of thy neck." What he says is
something like this--I do not reject marriage: you have a second eye, the left, which I
have given to you on account of the weakness of those who cannot see the
right. But I am pleased with the right eye of virginity, and if it be blinded the
whole body is in darkness. And that we might not think he had in view carnal love
and bodily marriage, he take once excludes this meaning by saying[2] "Thou
hast ravished my heart, my bride, my sister." The name sister excludes all
suspicion of unhallowed love. "How fair are thy breasts with wine," those breasts
concerning which he had said above, My beloved is mine, and I am his: "betwixt my
breasts shall he lie," that is in the princely portion of the heart where the
Word of God has its lodging. What wine is that which gives beauty to the breasts
of the bride, and fills them with the milk of chastity? That, for-sooth, of
which the bridegroom goes on to speak:[3] "I have drunk my wine with my milk. Eat,
O friends: yea, drink and be drunken, my brethren." Hence the Apostles also
were said to be filled with new wine; with new, he says, not with old wine;
because[4] new wine is put into fresh wine-skins, and they[5] did not walk in
oldness of the letter, but in newness of the Spirit. This is wine wherewith when
youths and maidens are intoxicated, they at once thirst for virginity; they are
filled with the spirit of chastity, and the prophecy of Zechariah comes to pass,
at least if we follow the Hebrew literally, for he prophesied concerning
virgins:[6] "And the streets of the city shall be full of boys and girls playing in
the streets thereof. For what is his goodness, and what is his beauty, but the
corn of the elect, and wine that giveth birth to virgins?" They are virgins of
whom it is written in the forty-fifth psalm:[7] "The virgins her companions that
follow her shall be brought unto thee. With gladness and rejoicing shall they
be led: they shall enter into the King's palace."
31. Then follows:[8] "A garden shut up is my sister, my bride: a garden
shut up, a fountain sealed." That which is shut up and sealed reminds us of the
mother of our Lord who was a mother and a Virgin. Hence it was that no one
before or after our Saviour was laid in his new tomb, hewn in the solid rock. And
yet she that was ever a Virgin is the mother of many virgins. For next we read:
"Thy shoots are an orchard of pomegranates with precious fruits." By
pomegranates and fruits is signified the blending of all virtues in virginity.[1] " My
beloved is white and ruddy "; white in virginity, ruddy in martyrdom. And because
He is white and ruddy, therefore it is immediately added[2] " His mouth is most
sweet, yea, he is altogether lovely." The virgin bridegroom having been
praised by the virgin bride, in turn praises the virgin bride, and says to her:[3].
How beautiful are thy feet in sandals,[4] O daughter of Aminadab," which is,
being interpreted, a people that affereth itself willingly. For virginity is
voluntary, and therefore the steps of the Church in the beauty of chastity are
praised. This is not the time for me like a commentator to explain all the mysteries
of virginity from the Song of Songs I have no doubt that the fastidious reader
will turn up his nose at what has already been said.
32. Isaiah tells of the mystery of our faith and hope:[5] "Behold a virgin
shall conceive, and bear a son, and shall call his name Emmanuel." I know that
the Jews are accustomed to meet us with the objection that in Hebrew the word
Almah does not mean a virgin, but a young woman. And, to speak truth, a virgin
is properly called Bethulah, but a young woman, or a girl, is not Almah, but
Naarah![6] What then is the meaning of Almah? A hidden virgin, that is, not
merely virgin, but a virgin and something more, because not every virgin is hidden,
shut off from the occasional sight of men. Then again, Rebecca, on account of
her extreme purity, and because she was a type of the Church which she
represented in her own virginity, is described in Genesis as Almah, not Bethulah, as may
clearly be proved from the words of Abraham's servant, spoken by him in
Mesopotamia:[7] "And he said, O Lord, the God of my master Abraham, if now thou do
prosper my way which I go: behold I stand by the fountain of water; and let it
come to pass, that the maiden which cometh forth to draw, to whom I shall say,
Give me, I pray thee, a little water of this pitcher to drink; and she shall say
to me, Both drink thou, and I will also draw for thy camels: let the same be
the woman whom the Lord hath appointed for my master's son." Where he speaks of
the maiden coming forth to draw water, the Hebrew word is Almah, that is, a
virgin secluded., and guarded by her parents with extreme care. Or, if if this be
not so, let them at least show me where the word is applied to married women as
well, and I will confess my ignorance. "Behold a virgin shall conceive and bear
a son." If virginity be not preferred to marriage, why did not the Holy Spirit
choose a married woman, or a widow? For at that time Anna the daughter of
Phanuel, of the tribe of Aser, was alive, distinguished for purity, and always free
to devote herself to prayers and fasting in the temple of God. If the life,
and good works, and fasting without virginity can merit the advent of the Holy
Spirit, she might well have been the mother of our Lord. Let us hasten to the
rest:[1] "The virgin daughter of Zion hath despised thee and laughed thee to
scorn." To her whom he called daughter the prophet also gave the title virgin, for
fear that if he spoke only of a daughter, it might be supposed that she was
married. This is the virgin daughter whom elsewhere he thus addresses:[2] " Sing, O
barren, thou that dost not bear; break forth into singing, and cry aloud, thou
that didst not travail with child: for more are the children of the desolate,
than the children of the married wife, saith the Lord." This is she of whom God
by the mouth of Jeremiah speaks, saying:[3] "Can a maid forget her ornaments,
or a bride her attire." Concerning her we read of a great miracle in the same
prophecy[4]--that a woman should compass a man, and that the Father of all
things should be contained in a virgin's womb.
33. "Granted, "says Jovinianus," that there is a difference between
marriage and virginity, what have you to say to this,--Suppose a virgin and a widow
were baptized, and continued as they were, what difference will there be between
them?" What we have already said concerning Peter and John, Anna and Mary, may
be of service here. For if there is no difference between a virgin and a
widow, both being baptized, because baptism makes a new man, upon the same principle
harlots and prostitutes, if they are baptized, will be equal to virgins. If
previous marriage is no prejudice to a baptized widow, and past pleasures and the
exposure of their bodies to public lust are no detriment in the case of
harlots, once they have approached the layer they will gain the rewards of virginity.
It is one thing to unite with God a mind pure and free from any stain of
memory, another to remember the foul and forced embraces of a man, and in
recollection to act a part which you do not in person. Jeremiah, who was[1] sanctified in
the womb, and was known in his mother's belly, enjoyed the high privilege
Because he was predestined to the blessing of virginity. And when all were
captured, and even the vessels of the temple were plundered by the King of Babylon, he
alone was[2] liberated by the enemy, knew not the insults of captivity, and was
supported by the conquerors; and Nebuchadnezzar, though he gave Nebuzaradan no
charge concerning the Holy of Holies, did give him charge concerning Jeremiah.
For that is the true temple of God, and that is the Holy of Holies, which is
consecrated to the Lord by pure virginity. On the other hand, Ezekiel, who was
kept captive in Babylon, who saw the[3] storm approaching from the north, and
the whirlwind sweeping all before it, says,[4] "My wife died in the evening and I
did in the morning as I was commanded." For the Lord had previously told him
that in that day he should open his mouth, and speak, and no longer keep
silence. Mark well, that while his wife was living he was not at liberty to admonish
the people. His wife died, the bond of wedlock was broken, and without the least
hesitation he constantly devoted himself to the prophetic office. For he who
was called being free, is truly the Lord's bondservant. I do not deny the
blessedness of widows who remain such after their baptism; nor do I disparage those
wives who maintain their chastity in wedlock; but as they attain a greater
reward with God than married women who pay the marriage due, let widows themselves
the content to give the preference to virginity. For if a chastity which comes
too late, when the glow of bodily pleasure is no longer felt, makes them feel
superior to married women, why should they not acknowledge themselves inferior to
perpetual virginity.
34. All that goes for nothing, says Jovinianus, because even bishops,
priests, and deacons, husbands of one wife, and having children, were appointed by
the Apostle. Just as the Apostle[5] says he has no commandment respecting
virgins, and yet gives his advice, as one who had obtained mercy from the Lord, and
is anxious throughout the whole discussion to give virginity the preference
over marriage, and advises what he does not venture to command, lest he seem to
lay a snare, and to put a heavier burden upon man's nature than it can bear; so
also in establishing the constitution of the Church, inasmuch as the elements of
the early Church were drawn from the Gentiles, he made the rules for fresh
believers somewhat lighter that they might not in alarm shrink from keeping
them. Then, again, the Apostles and elders wrote[1] letters from Jerusalem that no
heavier burden should be laid on Gentile believers than that they should keep
themselves from idolatry, and from fornication, and from things strangled. As
though they were providing for infant children, they gave them milk to drink,
not solid food. Nor did they lay down rules for continence, nor hint at
virginity, nor urge to fasting, nor repeat the directions[2] given in the Gospel to the
Apostles, not to have two tunics, nor scrip, nor money in their girdles, nor
staff in their hand, nor shoes on their feet. And they certainly did not bid
them,[3] if they wished to be perfect, go and sell all that they had and give to
the poor, and "come follow me." For if the young man who boasted of having done
all that the law enjoins, when he heard this went away sorrowful, because he had
great possessions, and the Pharisees derided an utterance such as this from
our Lord's lips: how much more would the vast multitude of Gentiles, whose
highest virtue consisted in not plundering another's goods, have repudiated the
obligation of perpetual chastity and continence, when they were told in the letter
to keep themselves from idols, and from fornication, seeing that fornication was
heard of among them, and such fornication as was not "even among the
Gentiles." But the very choice of a bishop makes for me. For he does not say: Let a
bishop be chosen who marries one wife and begets children; but who marries one
wife, and[4] has his children in subjection and well disciplined. You surely admit
that he is no bishop who during his episcopate begets children. The reverse is
the case--if he be discovered, he will not be bound by the ordinary obligations
of a husband, but will be condemned as an adulterer. Either permit[5] priests
to perform the work of marriage with the result that virginity and marriage are
on a par: or if it is unlawful for priests to touch their wives, they are so
far holy in that they imitate virgin chastity. But something more follows. A
layman, or any believer, cannot pray unless he abstain from sexual intercourse.
Now a priest must always offer sacrifices for the people: he must therefore
always pray. And if he must always pray, he must always be released from the duties
of marriage. For even under the old law they who used to offer sacrifices for
the people not only remained in their houses, but purified themselves for the
occasion by separating from their wives, nor would they drink wine or strong
drink which are wont to stimulate lust. That married men are elected to the
priesthood, I do not deny: the number of virgins is not so great as that of the
priests required. Does it follow that because all the strongest men are chosen for
the army, weaker men should not be taken as well? All cannot be strong. If an
army were constituted of strength only, and numbers went for nothing, the feebler
men might be rejected. As it is, men of second or third-rate strength are
chosen, that the army may have its full numerical complement. How is it, then, you
will say, that frequently at the ordination of priests a virgin is passed over,
and a married man taken? Perhaps because he lacks other qualifications in
keeping with virginity, or it may be that he is thought a virgin, and is not: or
there may be a stigma on his virginity, or at all events virginity itself makes
him proud, and while he plumes himself on mere bodily chastity, he neglects other
virtues; he does not cherish the poor: he is too fond of money. It sometimes
happens that a man has a gloomy visage, a frowning brow, a walk as though he
were in a solemn procession, and so offends the people, who, because they have no
fault to find with his life, hate his mere dress and gait. Many are chosen not
out of affection for themselves, but out of hatred for another. In most cases
the election is won by mere simplicity, while the shrewdness and discretion of
another candidate elicit opposition as though they were evils. Sometimes the
judgement of the commoner people is at fault, and in testing the qualities of the
priesthood, the individual inclines to his own character, with the result that
he looks not so much for a good candidate as for one like himself. Not
unfrequently it happens that married men, who form the larger portion of the people, in
approving married candidates seem to approve themselves, and it does not occur
to them that the mere fact that they prefer a married person to a virgin is
evidence of their inferiority to virgins. What I am going to say will perhaps
offend many. Yet I will say it, and good men will not be angry with me, because
they will not feel the sting of conscience. Sometimes it is the fault of the
bishops, who choose into the ranks of the clergy not the best, but the cleverest,
men, and think the more simple as well as innocent ones incapable; or, as though
they were distributing the offices of an earthly service, they give posts to
their kindred and relations; or they listen to the dictates of wealth. And,
worse than all, they give promotion to the clergy who besmear them with flattery.
To take the other view, if the Apostle's meaning be that marriage is necessary
in a bishop, the Apostle himself ought not to have been a bishop, for he
said,[1] "Yet I would that all men were even as I myself." And John will be thought
unworthy of this rank, and all the virgins, and the continent, the fairest gems
that give grace and ornament to the Church. Bishop, priest, and deacon, are not
honourable distinctions, but names of offices. And we do not read:[2] " If a
man seeketh the office of a bishop, he desireth a good degree," but, "he desireth
a good work," because by being placed in the higher order an opportunity is
afforded him, if he choose to avail himself of it, for the practice of virtue.
35. "The bishop, then, must be without reproach, so that he is the slave
of no vice: "the husband of one wife," that is, in the past, not in the present;
"sober," or[3] better, as it is in the Greek, "vigilant," that is
<greek>nhfaleon</greek>; "chaste," for that is the[4] meaning of <greek>swfrona</greek>;[5]
"distinguished," both by chastity and conduct: "hospitable," so that he
imitates Abraham, and with strangers, nay rather in strangers, entertains Christ;
"apt to teach," for it profits nothing to enjoy the consciousness of virtue,
unless a man be able to instruct the people intrusted to him, so that he can exhort
in doctrine, and refute the gainsayers;[6] "not a drunkard," for he who is
constantly in the Holy of Holies and offers sacrifices, will not drink wine and
strong drink, since wine is a luxury. If a bishop drink at all, let it be in such
a way that no one will know whether he has drunk or not. "No striker," that
is,[7] a striker of men's consciences, for the Apostle is not pointing out what a
boxer, but a pontiff ought not to do. He directly teaches what he ought to do:
"but gentle, not contentious, no lover of money, one that ruleth well his own
house, having his children in subjection with all chastity." See what chastity
is required in a bishop ! If his child be unchaste, he himself cannot be a
bishop, and he offends God in the same way as did[1] Eli the priest, who had indeed
rebuked his sons, but because he had not put away the offenders, fell backwards
and died before the lamp of God went out.[2] "Women in like manner must be
chaste," and so on. In every grade, and in both sexes, chastity has the chief
place. You see then that the blessedness of a bishop, priest, or deacon, does not
lie in the fact that they are bishops, priests, or deacons, but in their having
the virtues which their names and offices imply. Otherwise, if a deacon be
holier than his bishop, his lower grade will not give him a worse standing with
Christ. If it were so, Stephen the deacon, the first to wear the martyr's crown,
would be less in the kingdom of heaven than many bishops, and than Timothy and
Titus, whom I venture to make neither inferior nor yet superior to him. Just as
in the legions of the army there are generals, tribunes, centurions,
javelin-men, and light-armed troops, common soldiers, and companies, but once the battle
begins, all distinctions of rank are dropped, and the one thing looked for is
valour: so too in this camp and in this battle, in which we contend against
devils, not names but deeds are needed: and under the true commander, Christ, not
the man who has the highest title has the greatest fame, but he who is the
bravest warrior.
36. But you will say: "If everybody were a virgin, what would become of
the human race"? Like shall here beget like. If everyone were a widow, or
continent in marriage, how will mortal men be propagated? Upon this principle there
will be nothing at all for fear that something else may cease to exist. To put a
case: if all men were philosophers, there would be no husbandmen. Why speak of
husbandmen? there would be no orators, no lawyers, no teachers of the other
professions. If all men were leaders, what would become of the soldiers? If all
were the head, whose head would they be called, when there were no other members?
You are afraid that if the desire for virginity were general there would be no
prostitutes, no adulteresses, no wailing infants in town or country. Every day
the blood of adulterers[3] is shed, adulterers are condemned, and lust is
raging and rampant in the very presence of the laws and the symbols of authority
and the courts of justice. Be not afraid that all will become virgins: virginity
is a hard matter, and therefore rare, because it is hard: "Many are called, few
chosen." Many begin, few persevere. And so the reward is great for those who
have persevered. If all were able to be virgins, our Lord would never have
said:[1] " He that is able to receive it, let him receive it:" and the Apostle would
not have hesitated to give his advice,--[2] " Now concerning virgins I have no
commandment of the Lord." Why then, you will say, were the organs of
generation created, and why were we so fashioned by the all-wise creator, that we burn
for one another, and long for natural intercourse? To reply is to endanger our
modesty: we are, as it were, between two rocks, the[3] Symplegades of necessity
and virtue, on either side; and must make shipwreck of either our sense of
shame, or of the cause we defend: If we reply to your suggestions, shame covers our
face. If shame secures silence, in a manner we seem to desert our post, and to
leave the ground clear to the raging foe. Yet it is better, as the story goes,
to shut our eyes and fight like the[4] blindfold gladiators, than not to repel
with the shield of truth the darts aimed at us. I can indeed say: "Our hinder
parts which are banished from sight, and the lower portions of the abdomen,
which perform the functions of nature, are the Creator's work." But inasmuch as
the physical conformation of the organs of generation testifies to difference of
sex, I shall briefly reply: Are we never then to forego lust, for fear that we
may have members of this kind for nothing? Why then should a husband keep
himself from his wife? Why should a widow persevere in chastity, if we were only
born to live like beasts? Or what harm does it do me if another man lies with my
wife? For as the teeth were made for chewing, and the food masticated passes
into the stomach, and a man is not blamed for giving my wife bread: similarly if
it was intended that the organs of generation should always be performing their
office, when my vigour is spent let another take my place, and, if I may so
speak, let my wife quench her burning lust where she can. But what does the
Apostle mean by exhorting to continence, if continence be contrary to nature? What
does our Lord mean when He instructs us in the various kinds of eunuchs.[5]
Surely[6] the Apostle who bids us emulate his own chastity, must be asked, if we are
to be consistent, Why are you like other men, Paul? Why are you distinguished
from the female sex by a beard, hair, and other peculiarities of person? How is
it that you have not swelling bosoms, and are not broad at the hips, narrow at
the chest? Your voice is rugged, your speech rough, your eyebrows more shaggy.
To no purpose you have all these manly qualities, if you forego the embraces
of women. I am compelled to say something and become a fool: but you have forced
me to dare to speak. Our Lord and Saviour,[1] Who though He was in the form of
God, condescended to take the form of a servant, and became obedient to the
Father even unto death, yea the death of the cross--what necessity was there for
Him to be born with members which He was not going to use? He certainly was
circumcised to manifest His sex. Why did he cause John the Apostle and John the
Baptist to make themselves eunuchs through love of Him, after causing them to be
born men? Let us then who believe in Christ follow His example. And if we knew
Him after the flesh, let us no longer know Him according to the flesh. The
substance of our resurrection bodies will certainly be the same as now, though of
higher glory. For the Saviour after His descent into hell had so far the
selfsame body in which He was crucified, that[2] He showed the disciples the marks of
the nails in His hands and the wound in His side. Moreover, if we deny the
identity of His body because[3] He entered though the doors were shut, and this is
not a property of human bodies, we must deny also that Peter and the Lord had
real bodies because they[4] walked upon the water, which is contrary to
nature.[5] " In the resurrection of the dead they will neither marry nor be given in
marriage, but will be like the angels." What others will hereafter be in heaven,
that virgins begin to be on earth. If likeness to the angels is promised us
(and there is no difference of sex among the angels), we shall either be of no sex
as are the angels, or at all events which is clearly proved, though we rise
from the dead in our own sex, we shall not perform the functions of sex.
37. But why do we argue, and why are we eager to frame a clever and
victorious reply to our opponent?[6] "Old things have passed away, behold all things
have become new." I will run through the utterances of the Apostles, and as to
the instances afforded by Solomon I added short expositions to facilitate their
being understood, so now I will go over the passages bearing on Christian
purity and continence, and will make of many proofs a connected series. By this
method I shall succeed in omitting nothing relating to chastity, and shall avoid
being tediously long. Amongst other passages, Paul the Apostle writes to the
Romans:[1] "What fruit then had ye at that time in the things whereof ye are now
ashamed? for the end of those things is death. But now being made free from sin,
and become servants to God, ye have your fruit unto sanctification, and the
end eternal life." I suppose too that the end of marriage is death. But the
compensating fruit of sanctification, fruit belonging either to virginity or to
continence, is eternal life. And afterwards:[2] "Wherefore, my brethren, ye also
were made dead to the law through the body of Christ; that ye should be joined to
another, even to him who was raised from the dead, that we might bring forth
fruit unto God. For when we were in the flesh, the sinful passions, which were
through the law, wrought in our members to bring forth fruit unto death. But now
we have been discharged from the law, having died to that wherein we were
holden; so that we serve in newness of the Spirit, and not in oldness of the
letter." "When," he says, "we were in the flesh, and not in the newness of the Spirit
but in the oldness of the letter," we did those things which pertained to the
flesh, and bore fruit unto death. But now because we are dead to the law,
through the body of Christ, let us bear fruit to God, that we may belong to Him who
rose from the dead. And elsewhere, having previously said,[3] "I know that the
law is spiritual," and having discussed at some length the violence of the
flesh which frequently drives us to do what we would not, he at last continues: "O
wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me out of the body of this death? I
thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord." And again, "So then I myself with the
mind serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin." And,[4] "There
is therefore now no condemnation to them that are in Christ Jesus, who walk not
after the flesh. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus made me free
from the law of sin and death." And more clearly in what follows he teaches
that Christians do not walk according to the flesh but according to the
Spirit:[5] "For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they
that are after the spirit the things of the spirit. For the mind of the flesh
is death; but the mind of the spirit is life and peace: because the mind of the
flesh is enmity against God; for it is not subject to the law of God, neither
indeed can it be: and they that are in the flesh cannot please God. But ye are
not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwelleth in
you," and so on to where he says,[1] "So then, brethren, we are debtors, not
to the flesh, to live after the flesh: for if ye live after the flesh, ye must
die; but if by the spirit ye mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live. For
as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God." If the[2]
wisdom of the flesh is enmity against God, and they who are in the flesh cannot
please God, I think that they who perform the functions of marriage love the wisdom
of the flesh, and therefore are in the flesh. The Apostle being desirous to
withdraw us from the flesh and to join us to the Spirit, says afterwards:[3] " I
beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies
a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.
And be not fashioned according to this world: but be ye transformed by the
renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is the good and acceptable and
perfect will of God. For I say, through the grace that was given me, to every man
that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but
to think according to chastity "[4] (not soberly as the Latin versions badly
render), but "think," he says, "according to chastity," for the Greek words are
<greek>eis</greek> <greek>to</greek> <greek>swfronein</greek>. Let us consider
what the Apostle says: "Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye
may prove what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God." What he
says is something like this--God indeed permits marriage, He permits second
marriages, and if necessary, prefers even third marriages to fornication and
adultery. But we who ought to present our bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable
to God, which is our reasonable service, should consider, not what God permits,
but what He wishes: that we may prove what is the good and acceptable and
perfect will of God. It follows that what He merely permits is neither good, nor
acceptable, nor perfect. And he gives his reasons for this advice:[5] "Knowing
the season, that now it is high time for you to awake out of sleep: for now is
salvation nearer to us than when we first believed. The night is far spent, and
the day is at hand." And lastly:" Put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not
provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof." God's will is one thing,
His indulgence another. Whence, writing to the Corinthians, he says,[1] "I,
brethren, could not speak unto you as unto spiritual, but as unto carnal, even as
unto babes in Christ. I have fed you with milk, and not with meat: for
hitherto ye were not able to bear it, neither yet now are ye able. For ye are yet
carnal." He who[2] is in the merely animal state, and does not receive the things
pertaining to the Spirit of God (for he is foolish, and cannot understand them,
because they are spiritually discerned), he is not fed with the food of perfect
chastity, but with the coarse milk of marriage. As through man came death, so
also through man came the resurrection of the dead. As in Adam we all die, so
in Christ we shall all be made alive. Under the law we served the old Adam,
under the Gospel let us serve the new Adam. For the first man Adam was made a
living soul, the last Adam was made a quickening spirit.[3] "The first man is of the
earth, earthy: the second man is of heaven. As is the earthy, such are they
also that are earthy: and as is the heavenly, such are they also that are
heavenly. And as we have borne the image of the earthy, we shall also bear the image
of the heavenly. Now this I say, brethren, that flesh and blood cannot inherit
the Kingdom of God; neither doth corruption inherit incorruption." This is so
clear that no explanation can make it clearer: "Flesh and blood," he says,
"cannot inherit the Kingdom of God, neither doth corruption inherit incorruption." If
corruption attaches to all intercourse, and incorruption is characteristic of
chastity, the rewards of chastity cannot belong to marriage.[4] "For we know
that if the earthly house of this tabernacle be dissolved, we have a building
from God, a house not made with hands, eternal, in the heavens. For verily in this
we groan, longing to be clothed upon with our habitation which is from heaven.
We are willing to be absent from the body, and to be at home with the Lord.
Wherefore also we make it our aim, whether in the body, or out of the body, to be
well-pleasing unto God." And by way of more fully explaining what he did not
wish them to be he says elsewhere:[5] "I espoused you to one husband, that I
might present you as a pure virgin to Christ." But if you choose to apply the
words to the whole Assembly of believers, and in this betrothal to Christ include
both married women, and the twice-married, and widows, and virgins, that also
makes for us. For whilst he invites all to chastity and to the reward of
virginity, he shows that virginity is more excellent than all these conditions. And
again writing to the Galatians he says:[1] "Because by the works of the law shall
no flesh be justified." Among the works of the law is marriage, and accordingly
under it they are cursed who have no children. And if under the Gospel it is
permitted to have children, it is one thing to make a concession to weakness
another to hold out rewards to virtue.
38. Something else I will say to my friends who marry and after long
chastity and continence begin to burn and are as wanton as the brutes :[2] "Are ye
so foolish ? having begun in the Spirit, are ye now perfected in the flesh ? Did
ye suffer so many things in vain ?" If the Apostle in the case of some persons
loosens the cords of continence, and lets them have a slack rein, he does so
on account of the infirmity of the flesh. This is the enemy he has in view when
he once more says :[3] "Walk by the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of
the flesh. For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against
the flesh." It is unnecessary now to speak of the works of the flesh: it would be
tedious, and he who chooses can easily gather them from the letter of the
Apostle. I will only speak of the Spirit and its fruits, love, joy, peace, long
suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, meekness,[4] continence. All the
virtues of the Spirit are supported and protected by continence, which is as it
were their solid foundation and crowning point. Against such there is no law.[5]
"And they that are of Christ have crucified their flesh with the passions and
the lusts thereof. If we live by the Spirit, by the Spirit let us also walk." Why
do we who with Christ have crucified our flesh and its passions and desires
again desire to do the things of the flesh?[6] "Whatsoever a man soweth, that
shall he also reap. For he that soweth unto his own flesh, shall of the flesh reap
corruption; but he that soweth unto the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap
eternal life." I think that he who has a wife, so long as he reverts to the practice
in question, that Satan may not tempt him, is sowing to the flesh and not to
the Spirit. And he who sows to the flesh (the words are not mine, but the
Apostle's) reaps corruption. God the Father chose us in Christ before the foundation
of the world, that we might be holy and without spot before Him.[1] We walked in
the lusts of the flesh, doing the desires of the flesh and of the thoughts,
and were children of wrath, even as the rest. But now He has raised us up with
Him, and made us to sit with Him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus,[2] that
we may put away according to our former manner of life the old man, which is
corrupt according to the lusts of deceit, and that blessing may be applied to us
which so finely concludes the mystical Epistle to the Ephesians: 3 " Grace be
with all them that love our Lord Jesus Christ in uncorruptness."[4] " For our
citizenship is in heaven; from whence also we wait for a Saviour, the Lord Jesus
Christ: who shall fashion anew the body of our humiliation, that it may be
conformed to the body of his glory.[5] Whatsoever things then are true, whatsoever
are chaste, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things pertain to purity,
let us join ourselves to these, let us follow these.[6] Christ hath reconciled us
in his body to God the Father through his death, and has presented us holy and
without spot, and without blame before himself: in whom we have been also
circumcised, not with the circumcision made with hands, to the spoiling of the body
of the flesh, but with the circumcision of Christ, having been buried with him
in baptism, wherein also we rose with him. If then we have risen with Christ,
let us seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right
hand of God; let us set our affections on things above, not upon the things that
are upon the earth. For we are dead, and our life is hid with Christ in God.
When Christ our life shall appear, then we also shall appear with him in glory.[7]
No soldier on service entangleth himself in the affairs of this life; that he
may please him who enrolled him as a soldier.[8] For the grace of God hath
appeared, bringing salvation to all men, instructing us, to the intent that,
denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live purely and righteously and
godly in this present world."
39. The day would not be long enough were I to attempt to relate all that
the Apostle enjoins concerning purity. These things are those concerning which
our Lord said to the Apostles :[9] "I have yet many things to say unto you, but
ye cannot bear them now. Howbeit, when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he
shall guide you into all the truth." After the crucifixion of Christ, we find in
the[10] Acts of the Apostles that one house, that of Philip the Evangelist,
produced four virgin daughters, to the end that Caesarea, where the Gentile Church
had been consecrated in the person of Cornelius the centurion, might afford an
illustration of virginity. And whereas our Lord said in the Gospel:[1] "The
law and the prophets were until John," they because they were virgins are related
to have prophesied even after John. For they could not be bound by the law of
the Old Testament, who had shone with the brightness of virginity. Let us pass
on to James, who was called the brother of the Lord, a man of such sanctity and
righteousness, and distinguished by so rigid and perpetual a virginity, that
even[2] Josephus, the Jewish historian, relates that the overthrow of Jerusalem
was due to his death. He, the first bishop of the Church at Jerusalem, which
was composed of Jewish believers, to whom Paul went, accompanied by Titus and
Barnabas, says in his Epistle:[3] "Be not deceived, my beloved brethren. Every
good gift and every perfect boon is from above, coming down from the Father of
lights,[4] with whom there is no difference, neither shadow that is cast by
turning. Of his own will he brought us forth by the word of truth, that we should be
a kind of first-fruits of his creatures." Himself a virgin, he teaches
virginity in a mystery. Every perfect gift cometh down from above, where marriage is
unknown; and it cometh down, not from any one you please, but from the Father of
lights, Who says to the apostles, "Ye are the light of the world;" with Whom
there is no difference of Jew, or Gentile, nor does that shadow which was the
companion of the law, trouble those who have believed from among the nations; but
with His word He begat us, and with the word of truth, because some shadow,
image, and likeness of truth went before in the law, that we might be the
first-fruits of His creatures. And as He who was Himself the[5] first begotten from the
dead has raised all that have died in Him: so He who was a virgin, consecrated
the first-fruits of His virgins in His own virgin self. Let us also consider
what Peter thinks of the calling of the Gentiles:[6] " Blessed be the God and
Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according to his great mercy begat us again
unto a living hope by the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, unto an
inheritance incorruptible, and undefiled, and that fadeth not away, reserved in
heaven for you, who by the power of God are guarded through faith unto a
salvation ready to be revealed in the last time." Where we read of an inheritance
incorruptible, and undefiled, and that fadeth not away, prepared in heaven and
reserved for the last time, and of the hope of eternal life when they will neither
marry, nor be given in marriage, there, in other words, the privileges of
virginity are described. For he shows as much in what follows:[1] "Wherefore
girding up the loins of your mind, be sober and set your hope perfectly on the grace
that is to be brought unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ; as children
of obedience, not fashioning yourselves according to your former lusts in the
time of your ignorance; but like as he which called you is holy, be ye yourselves
also holy in all manner of living; because it is written, ye shall be holy;
for I am holy.[2] For we were not redeemed with contemptible things, with silver
or gold; but with the precious blood of a lamb without spot, Jesus Christ,[3]
that we might purify our souls in obedience to the truth, having been begotten
again not of corruptible seed, but of incorruptible, through the word of God,[4]
who liveth and abideth. And as living stones let us be built up a spiritual
house, an holy priesthood offering up spiritual sacrifices through Christ our
Lord.[5] For we are an elect race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for
God's own possession.[6] Christ died for us in the flesh. Let us arm ourselves
with the same conversation as did Christ; for he that hath suffered in the
flesh hath ceased from sin; that we should no longer live the rest of our time in
the flesh to the lusts of men, but to the will of God. For the time past is
sufficient for us when we walked in lasciviousness, lusts, and other vices. Great
and precious are the promises attaching to virginity which He has given us,[7]
that through it we may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped
from the corruption that is in the world through lust.[8] The Lord knoweth how to
deliver the godly out of temptation, and to keep the unrighteous under
punishment unto the day of judgement, but chiefly them that walk after the flesh in
the lust of defilement, and despise dominion, daring, self-willed. For they, as
beasts of burden, without reason, think only of their belly and their lusts,
railers who shall in their corruption be destroyed, and shall receive the reward
of iniquity: men that count unrighteousness delight, spots and blemishes,
thinking of nothing but their pleasures; having eyes full of adultery and insatiable
lust, deceiving souls not yet strengthened by the love of Christ. For they
utter swelling words and easily snare the unlearned with the seduction of the
flesh; promising them liberty while they themselves are the slaves of vice, luxury,
and corruption. For of what a man is overcome, of the same is he also brought
into bondage. But if, after they had escaped the defilements of the world
through the knowledge of our Saviour Jesus Christ, they are again overcome by that
which they before overcame, the last state is become worse with them than the
first. And it were better for them not to have known the way of righteousness,
than, after knowing it, to turn back and forsake the holy commandment delivered
unto them. And it has happened unto them according to the true proverb, the dog
hath turned to his own vomit again, and the sow that had washed to wallowing in
the mire." I have hesitated, for fear of being tedious, to quote the whole
passage of the second Epistle of Peter, and have merely shown that the Holy Spirit
in prophecy foretold the teachers of this time and their heresy. Lastly, he
more clearly denotes them, saying,[1] "In the last days seducing mockers shall
come, walking after their own lusts."
40. The Apostle has described Jovinianus speaking with swelling cheeks and
nicely balancing his inflated utterances, promising heavenly liberty, when he
himself is the slave of vice and self-indulgence, a dog returning to his vomit.
For although he boasts of being a monk, he has exchanged his dirty tunic, bare
feet, common bread, and drink of water, for a snowy dress, sleek skin,
honey-wine and dainty dishes, for the sauces of[2] Apicius and[3] Paxamus, for baths
and rubbings, and for the cook-shops. Is it not clear that he prefers his belly
to Christ, and thinks his ruddy complexion worth the kingdom of heaven? And yet
that handsome monk so fat and sleek, and of bright appearance, who always
walks with the air of a bridegroom, must either marry a wife if he is to show that
virginity and marriage are equal: or if he does not marry one, it is useless
for him to bandy words with us when his acts are on our side. And John agrees
with this almost to the letter:[4] "Love not the world, neither the things that
are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in
him. For all that is in the world is the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the
eyes, and the pride of this life, which is not of the Father, but is of the
world." And, "The world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the
will of God abideth for ever. A new commandment have I written unto you, which
thing is true both in Christ and in you; because the darkness is passing away,
and the true light already shineth." And again,[1] " Beloved, now are we the
children of God, and it is not yet made manifest what we shall be. But we know
that, if he shall be manifested, we shall be like him: for we shall see him even as
he is. And every one that hath this hope purifieth himself, even as he is
pure.[2] Herein is our love made perfect, if we have boldness in the day of
judgement: that as he is, even so may we be in this world." The Epistle of Jude also
expresses nearly the same:[3] "Hating even the garment spotted by the flesh."
Let us read the Apocalypse of John, and we shall there find the Lamb upon Mount
Sion,[4] and with Him "a hundred and forty-four thousand of them that were
sealed, having His name and the name of His Father written in their foreheads, who
sing a new song, and no one can sing that song save they who have been redeemed
out of the earth. These are they who have not defiled themselves with women,
for they continued virgins. These follow the Lamb whithersoever He goeth: for
they were redeemed from among men, first-fruits to God and to the Lamb, and in
their mouth was found no guile, and they are without spot." Out of each tribe, the
tribe of Dan excepted, the place of which is taken by the tribe of Levi,
twelve thousand virgins who have been sealed are spoken of as future believers, who
have not defiled themselves with women. And that we may not suppose the
reference to be to those who know not harlots, he immediately added: "For they
continued virgins." Whereby he shows that all who have not preserved their virginity,
in comparison of pure and angelic chastity and of our Lord Jesus Christ
Himself, are defiled.[6] " These are they who sing a new song which no man can sing
except him that is a virgin. These are first-fruits unto God and unto the Lamb,
and are without blemish." If virgins are first-fruits, it follows that widows
and the continent in marriage, come after the first-fruits, that is, are in the
second and third rank: nor can a lost people be saved unless it offer such
sacrifices of chastity to God, and with pure victims reconcile the spotless Lamb. It
would be endless work to explain the Gospel mystery of the ten virgins, five
of whom were wise and five foolish. All I say now is, that as mere virginity
without other works does not save, so all works without virginity, purity,
continence, chastity, are imperfect. And we shall not be hindered in the least from
taking this view by the objection of our opponent that our Lord was at Cana of
Galilee, and joined in the marriage festivities when He turned water into wine. I
shall very briefly reply, that He Who was circumcised on the eighth day, and
for Whom a pair of turtle-doves and two young pigeons were offered on the day of
purification, like others before He suffered, shewed His approval of Jewish
custom, that He might not seem to give His enemies just cause for putting Him to
death on the pretext that He destroyed the law and condemned nature. And even
this was done for our sakes. For by going once to a marriage, He taught that men
should marry only once. Moreover, at that time it was possible to injure
virginity if marriage were not placed next to it, and the purity of widowhood in the
third rank. But now when heretics are condemning wedlock, and despise the
ordinance of God, we gladly hear anything he[1] may say in praise of marriage. For
the Church does not condemn marriage, but makes it subordinate; nor does she
reject it, but regulates it; for she knows, as was said before, that[2] in a
great house there are not only vessels of gold and silver, but also of wood and
earthenware; and that some are to honour, some to dishonour; and that whoever
cleanses himself will be a vessel of honour, necessary, prepared for every good
work.
41. I have given enough and more than enough illustrations from the divine
writings of Christian chastity and angelic virginity. But as I understand that
our opponent in his commentaries summons us to the tribunal of worldly wisdom,
and we are told that views of this kind are never accepted in the world, and
that our religion has invented a dogma against nature, I will quickly run
through Greek and Roman and Foreign History, and will show that virginity ever took
the lead of chastity. Fable relates that Atalanta, the virgin of Calydonian
fame, lived for the chase and dwelt always in the woods; in other words that she
did not set her heart on marriage with its troubles of pregnancy and of sickness,
but upon the nobler life of freedom and chastity. [3] Harpalyce too, a
Thracian virgin, is described by the famous poet; and so is[4] Camilia, queen of the
Volsci, on whom, when she came to his assistance, Turnus had no higher praise
which he could bestow than to call her a virgin. "O Virgin, Glory of Italy!" And
that famous daughter of[1] Leos, the lady of the brazen house, ever a virgin,
is related to have freed her country from pestilence by her voluntary death: and
the blood of the virgin[2] Iphigenia is said to have calmed the stormy winds.
What need to tell of the Sibyls of Erythrae and Cum, and the eight others? for
Varro asserts there were ten whose ornament was virginity, and divination the
reward of their virginity. But if in the olian dialect "Sibyl" is represented by
<greek>Qeoboulh</greek>, we must understand that a knowledge of the Counsel of
God is rightly attributed to virginity alone. We read, too, that Cassandra and
Chryseis, prophetesses of Apollo and Juno, were virgins. And there were
innumerable priestesses of the Taurian Diana, and of Vesta. One of these, Munitia,
being suspected of unchastily was[3] buried alive, which would be in my opinion
an unjust punishment, unless the violation of virginity were considered a
serious crime. At all events how highly the Romans always esteemed virgins is clear
from the fact that consuls and generals even in their triumphal chariots and
bringing home the spoils of conquered nations, were wont to make way for them to
pass. And so did men of all ranks. When[4] Claudia, a Vestal Virgin, was
suspected of unchastily, and a vessel containing the image of Cybele was aground in
the Tiber, it is related that she, to prove her chastity, with her girdle drew
the ship which a thousand men could not move. Yet, as[5] the uncle of Lucan the
poet says, it would have been better if this circumstance had decorated a
chastity tried and proved, and had not pleaded in defence of a chastity equivocal. No
wonder that we read such things of human beings, when heathen error also
invented the virgin goddesses Minerva and Diana, and placed the Virgin among the
twelve signs of the Zodiac, by means of which, as they suppose, the world
revolves. It is a proof of the little esteem in which they held marriage that they did
not even among the scorpions, centaurs, crabs, fishes, and capricorn, thrust in
a husband and wife. When the thirty tyrants of Athens had slain Phidon at the
banquet, they commanded his virgin daughters to come to them, naked like
harlots, and there upon the ground, red with their father's blood, to act the wanton.
For a little while they hid their grief, and then when they saw the revellers
were intoxicated, going out on the plea of casing nature, they embraced one
another and threw themselves into a well, that by death they might save their
virginity. The virgin daughter of Demotion, chief of the Areopagites, having heard
of the death of her betrothed,[1] Leosthenes, who had originated the Lamian
war, slew herself, for she declared that although in body she was a virgin, yet if
she were compelled to: accept another, she should regard him as her second
husband, when she had given her heart to Leosthenes. So close a friendship long
existed between Sparta and Messene that for the furtherance of certain religious
rites they even exchanged virgins. Well, on one occasion when the men of
Messene attempted to outrage fifty Lacedmonian virgins, out of so many not one
consented, but they all most gladly died in defence of their chastity. Whence there
arose a long and grievous war, and in the long run[2] Mamertina was destroyed.
Aristoclides, tyrant of Orchomenos, fell in love with a virgin of Stymphalus,
and when after the death of her father she took refuge in the temple of Diana,
and embraced the image of the goddess and could not be dragged thence by force,
she was slain on the spot. Her death caused such intense grief throughout
Arcadia that the people took up arms and avenged the virgin's death.[3] Aristomenes
of Messene, a just man, at a time when the Lacedmonians, whom he had conquered,
were celebrating by night the festival called the[4] Hyacinthia, carried off
from the sportive bands fifteen virgins, and fleeing all night at full speed got
away from the Spartan territory. His companions wished to outrage them, but he
admonished them to the best of his power not to do so, and when certain
refused to obey, he slew them, and restrained the rest by fear. The maidens were
afterwards ransomed by their kinsmen, and on seeing Aristomenes condemned for
murder would not return to their country until clasping the knees of the judges they
beheld the protector of their chastity acquitted. How shall we sufficiently
praise the daughters of Scedasus at Leuctra in Boeotia? It is related that in the
absence of their father they hospitably entertained two youths who were
passing by, and who having drunk to excess violated the virgins in the course of the
flight. Being unwilling to survive the loss of their virginity, the maidens
inflicted deadly wounds on one another. Nor would it be right to omit mention of
the Locrian virgins. They were sent to Ilium according to custom which had
lasted for nearly a thousand years, and yet not one gave occasion to any idle tale
or filthy rumour of virginity defiled. Could any one pass over in silence the
seven virgins of Miletus who, when the Gauls spread desolation far and wide, that
they might suffer no indignity at the hands of the enemy, escaped disgrace by
death, and left to all virgins the lesson of their example--that noble minds
care more for chastity than life? Nicanor having conquered and overthrown Thebes
was himself overcome by a passion for one captive virgin, whose voluntary
self-surrender he longed for. A captive maid, he thought, must be only too glad. But
he found that virginity is dearer to the pure in heart than a kingdom, when
with tears and grief he held her in his arms slain by her own hand. Greek writers
tell also of another Theban virgin who had been deflowered by a Macedonian
foe, and who, hiding her grief for a while, slew the violator of her virginity as
he slept, and then killed herself with the sword, so that she would neither
live when her chastity was lost, nor die before she had avenged herself.
42. To come to the Gymnosophists of india, the opinion is authoritatively
handed down that Budda, the founder of their religion, had his birth through
the side of a virgin. And we need not wonder at this in the case of Barbarians
when cultured Greece supposed that Minerva at her birth sprang from the head of
Jove, and Father Bacchus from his thigh.[1] Speusippus also, Plato's nephew,
and[2] "Clearchus in his eulogy of Plato, and[3] Anaxelides in the second book of
his philosophy, relates that Perictione, the mother of Plato, was violated by
an apparition of Apollo, and they agree in thinking that the prince of wisdom
was born of a virgin.[1] Timus writes that the[2] virgin daughter of[3]
Pythagoras was at the head of a band of virgins, and instructed them in chastity.[4]
Diodorus, the disciple of Socrates, is said to have had five daughters skilled in
dialectics and distinguished for chastity, of whom a full account is given by
Philo the master of[5] Carneades. And mighty Rome cannot taunt us as though we
had invented the story of the birth of our Lord and Saviour from a virgin; for
the Romans believe that the founders of their city and race were the offspring
of the virgin[6] Ilia and of Mars.
43. Let these allusions to the virgins of the world, brief and hastily
gathered from many histories, now suffice. I will proceed to married women who
were reluctant to survive the decease or violent death of their husbands for fear
they might be forced into a second marriage, and who entertained a marvellous
affection for the only husbands they had. This may teach us that second marriage
was repudiated among the heathen. Dido, the sister of Pygmalion, having
collected a vast amount of gold and silver, sailed to Africa, and there built
Carthage. And when her hand was sought in marriage by Iarbas, king of Libya, she
deferred the marriage for a while until her country was settled. Not long after,
having raised a[7] funeral pyre to the memory of her former husband Sichus, she
preferred to "burn rather than to marry." Carthage was built by a woman of
chastity, and its end was a tribute to the excellence of the virtue. For the[1] wife
of Hasdrubal, when the city was captured and set on fire, and she saw that she
could not herself escape capture by the Romans, took her little children in
either hand and leaped into the burning ruins of her house.
44. What need to tell of the wife of[2] Niceratus, who, not enduring to
wrong her husband, inflicted death upon herself rather than subject herself to
the lust of the thirty tyrants whom Lysander had set over conquered Athens?[3]
Artemisia, also, wife of Mausolus, is related to have been distinguished for
chastity. Though she was queen of Caria, and is extolled by great poets and
historians, no higher praise is bestowed upon her than that when her husband was dead
she loved him as much as when he was alive, and built a tomb so great that even
to the present day all costly sepulchres are called after his name,
mausoleums.[4] Teuta, queen of the Illyrians, owed her long sway over brave warriors, and
her frequent victories over Rome, to her marvellous chastity. The Indians and
almost all the Barbarians have a plurality of wives. It is a law with them that
the favourite wife must be burned with her dead husband. The wives therefore
vie with one another for the husband's love, and the highest ambition of the
rivals, and the proof of chastity, is to be considered worthy of death. So then
she that is victorious, having put on her former dress and ornaments, lies down
beside the corpse, embracing and kissing it, and to the glory of chastity
despises the flames which are burning beneath her. I suppose that she who dies thus,
wants no second marriage. The famous Alcibiades, the friend of Socrates, when
Athens was conquered, fled to Pharnabazus, who took a bribe from Lysander the
Lacedmonian leader and ordered him to be slain. He was strangled, and when his
head had been cut off it was sent to Lysander as proof of the murder, but the
rest of his body lay unburied. His concubine, therefore, all alone, in defiance of
the command of the cruel enemy, in the midst of strangers, and in the face of
peril, gave him due burial, for she was ready to die for the dead man whom she
had loved when living. Let matrons, Christian matrons at all events, imitate
the fidelity of concubines, and exhibit in their freedom what she in her
captivity preserved.
45. Strato, ruler of Sidon, thought of dying by his own hand, that he
might not be the sport of the Persians, who were close by and whose alliance he had
discarded for the friendship of the king of Egypt. But he drew back in terror,
and eying the sword which he had seized, awaited in alarm the approach of the
enemy. His wife, knowing that he must be immediately taken, wrested the weapon
from his hand, and pierced his side. When the body was properly laid out she
lay down upon it in the agony of death, that she might not violate her virgin
troth in the embraces of another.[1] Xenophon, in describing the early years of
the eider Cyrus, relates that when her husband Abradatas was slain, Panthea who
had loved him intensely, placed herself beside the mangled body, then stabbed
herself, and let her blood run into her husband's wounds. The[2] queen whom the
king her husband had shewn naked and without her knowledge to his friend,
thought she had good cause for slaying the king. She judged that she was not beloved
if it was possible for her to be exhibited to another. Rhodogune, daughter of
Darius, after the death of her husband, put to death the nurse who was trying to
persuade her to marry again.[3] Alcestis is related in story to have
voluntarily died for Admetus, and Penelope's chastity is the theme of Homer's song.
Laodamia's praises are also sung by the poets, because, when[4] Protesilaus was
slain at Troy, she refused to survive him.
46. I may pass on to Roman women; and the first that I shall mention is[5]
Lucretia, who would not survive her violated chastity, but blotted out the
stain upon her person with her own blood. Duilius, the first Roman who won a[6]
naval triumph, took to wife a virgin, Bilia, of such extraordinary chastity that
she was an example even to an age which held unchastity to be not merely
vicious but monstrous. When he was grown old and feeble he was once in the course of
a quarrel taunted with having bad breath. In dudgeon he betook himself home,
and on complaining to his wife that she had never told him of it so that he might
remedy the fault, he received the reply that she would have done so, but she
thought that all men had foul breath as he had. In either case this chaste and
noble woman deserves praise, whether she was not aware there was anything wrong
with her husband, or if she patiently endured, and her husband discovered his
unfortunate condition not by the disgust of a wife, but by the abuse of an
enemy. At all events the woman who marries a second time cannot say this. Marcia,
Cato's younger daughter, on being asked after the loss of her husband why she did
not marry again, replied that she could not find a man who wanted her more
than her money. Her words teach us that men in choosing their wives look for
riches rather than for chastity, and that many in marrying use not their eyes but
their fingers. That must be an excellent thing which is won by avarice! When the
same lady was mourning the loss of her husband, and the matrons asked what day
would terminate her grief, she replied, "The same that terminates my life." I
imagine that a woman who thus followed her husband in heart and mind had no
thought of marrying again. Porcia, whom [1] Brutus took to wife, was a virgin;
Cato's wife,[2] Marcia, was not a virgin; but Marcia went to and fro between
Hortensius and Cato, and was quite content to live without Cato; while[3] Porcia
could not live without Brutus; for women attach themselves closely to particular
men, and to keep to one is a strong link in the chain of affection. When a
relative urged Annia to marry again (she was of full age and a goodly person), she
answered, "I shall certainly not do so. For, if I find a good man, I have no wish
to be in fear of losing him: if a bad one, why must I put up with a bad
husband after having had a good one?"[4] Porcia the younger, on hearing a certain
lady of good character, who had a second husband, praised in her house, replied,
"A chaste and happy matron never marries more than once." Marcella the eider, on
being asked by her mother if she was glad she was married, answered, "So much
so that I want nothing more."[5] Valeria, sister of the Messalas, when she lost
her husband Servius, would marry no one else. On being asked why not, she said
that to her, her husband Servius was ever alive.
47. I feel that in giving this list of women I have said far more than is
customary in illustrating a point, and that I might be justly censured by my
learned reader. But what am I to do when the women of our time press me with
apostolic authority, and before the first husband is buried, repeat from morning to
night the precepts which allow a second marriage? Seeing they despise the
fidelity which Christian purity dictates, let them at least learn chastity from the
heathen. A book On Marriage, worth its weight in gold, passes under the name
of[1] Theophrastus. In it the author asks whether a wise man marries. And after
laying down the conditions--that the wife must be fair, of good character, and
honest parentage, the husband in good health and of ample means, and after
saying that under these circumstances a wise man sometimes enters the state of
matrimony, he immediately proceeds thus: "But all these conditions are seldom
satisfied in marriage. A wise man therefore must not take a wife. For in the first
place his study of philosophy will be hindered, and it is impossible for anyone
to attend to his books and his wife. Matrons want many things, costly dresses,
gold, jewels, great outlay, maid-servants, all kinds of furniture, litters and
gilded coaches. Then come curtain-lectures the livelong night: she complains
that one lady goes out better dressed than she: that another is looked up to by
all: 'I am a poor despised nobody at the ladies' assemblies.' 'Why did you ogle
that creature next door?' 'Why were you talking to the maid?' 'What did you
bring from the market?' 'I am not allowed to have a single friend, or companion.'
She suspects that her husband's love goes the same way as her hate. There may
be in some neighbouring city the wisest of teachers; but if we have a wife we
can neither leave her behind, nor take the burden with us. To support a poor
wife, is hard: to put up with a rich one, is torture. Notice, too, that in the
case of a wife you cannot pick and choose: you must take her as you find her. If
she has a bad temper, or is a fool, if she has a blemish, or is proud, or has
bad breath, whatever her fault may be--all this we learn after marriage. Horses,
asses, cattle, even slaves of the smallest worth, clothes, kettles, wooden
seats, cups, and earthenware pitchers, are first tried and then bought: a wife is
the only thing that is not shown before she is married, for fear she may not
give satisfaction. Our gaze must always be directed to her face, and we must
always praise her beauty: if you look at another woman, she thinks that she is out
of favour. She must be called my lady, her birth-day must be kept, we must swear
by her health and wish that she may survive us, respect must be paid to the
nurse, to the nursemaid, to the father's slave, to the foster-child, to the
handsome hanger-on, to the curled darling who manages her affairs, and to the eunuch
who ministers to the safe indulgence of her lust: names which are only a cloak
for adultery. Upon whomsoever she sets her heart, they must have her love
though they want her not. If you give her the management of the whole house, you
must yourself be her slave. If you reserve something for yourself, she will not
think you are loyal to her; but she will turn to strife and hatred, and unless
you quickly take care, she will have the poison ready. If you introduce old
women, and soothsayers, and prophets, and vendors of jewels and silken clothing,
you imperil her chastity; if you shut the door upon them, she is injured and
fancies you suspect her. But what is the good of even a careful guardian, when an
unchaste wife cannot be watched, and a chaste one ought not to be? For necessity
is but a faithless keeper of chastity, and she alone really deserves to be
called pure, who is free to sin if she chooses. if a woman be fair, she soon finds
lovers; if she be ugly, it is easy to be wanton. It is difficult to guard what
many long for. It is annoying to have what no one thinks worth possessing. But
the misery of having an ugly wife is less than that of watching a comely one.
Nothing is safe, for which a whole people sighs and longs. One man entices with
his figure, another with his brains, another with his wit, another with his
open hand. Somehow, or sometime, the fortress is captured which is attacked on
all sides. Men marry, indeed, so as to get a manager for the house, to solace
weariness, to banish solitude; but a faithful slave is a far better manager, more
submissive to the master, more observant of his ways, than a wife who thinks
she proves herself mistress if she acts in opposition to her husband, that is, if
she does what pleases her, not what she is commanded. But friends, and
servants who are under the obligation of benefits received, are better able to wait
upon us in sickness than a wife who makes us responsible for her tears (she will
sell you enough to make a deluge for the hope of a legacy), boasts of her
anxiety, but drives her sick husband to the distraction of despair. But if she
herself is poorly, we must fall sick with her and never leave her bedside. Or if she
be a good and agreeable wife (how rare a bird she is!), we have to share her
groans in childbirth, and suffer torture when she is in danger. A wise man can
never be alone. He has with him the good men of all time, and turns his mind
freely wherever he chooses. What is inaccessible to him in person he can embrace
in thought. And, if men are scarce, he converses with God.[1] He is never less
alone than when alone. Then again, to marry for the sake of children, so that
our name may not perish, or that we may have support in old age, and leave our
property without dispute, is the height of stupidity. For what is it to us when
we are leaving the world if another bears our name, when even a son does not all
at once take his father's title, and there are countless others who are called
by the same name. Or what support in old age is he whom you bring up, and who
may die before you, or turn out a reprobate? Or at all events when he reaches
mature age, you may seem to him long in dying. Friends and relatives whom you
can judiciously love are better and safer heirs than those whom you must make
your heirs whether you like it or not. Indeed, the surest way of having a good
heir is to ruin your fortune in a good cause while you live, not to leave the
fruit of your labour to he used you know riot how."
48. When Theophrastus thus discourses, are there any of us, Christians,
whose conversation is in heaven and who daily say[2] "I long to be dissolved, and
to be with Christ," whom he does not put to the blush? Shall a joint-heir of
Christ really long for human heirs? And shall he desire children and delight
himself in a long line of descendants, who will perhaps fall into the clutches of
Antichrist, when we read that[3] Moses and[4] Samuel preferred other men to
their own sons, and did not count as their children those whom they saw to be
displeasing to God? When Cicero after[5] divorcing Terentia was requested by[6]
Hirtius to marry his sister, he[7] set the matter altogether on one side, and said
that he could not possibly devote himself to a wife and to philosophy.
Meanwhile that excellent partner, who had herself drunk wisdom at Tully's fountains,
married[1] Sallust his enemy, and took for her third husband Messala Corvinus,
and thus, as it were, passed through three degrees of eloquence. Socrates had
two wives, Xantippe and Myron, grand-daughter of Aristides. They frequently
quarrelled, and he was accustomed to banter them for disagreeing about him, he being
the ugliest of men, with snub nose, bald forehead, rough-haired, and
bandy-legged. At last they planned an attack upon him, and having punished him severely,
and put him to flight, vexed him for a long time. On one occasion when he
opposed Xantippe; who from above was heaping abuse upon him, the termagant soused
him with dirty water, but he only wiped his head and said, "I knew that a
shower must follow such thunder as that."[2] Metella, consort of L. Sulla the[3]
Fortunate (except in the matter of his wife) was[4] openly unchaste. It was the
common talk of Athens, as I learnt in my youthful years when we soon pick up what
is bad, and yet Sulla was in the dark, and first got to know the secrets of
his household through the abuse of his enemies. Cn. Pompey had an impure wife[5]
Mucia, who was surrounded by eunuchs from Pontus and troops of the countrymen
of Mithridates. Others thought that he knew all and submitted to it; but a
comrade told him during the campaign, and the conqueror of the whole world was
dismayed at the sad intelligence.[6] M. Cato, the Censor, had a wife Actoria Paula,
a woman of low origin, fond of drink, violent, and (who would believe it?)
haughty to Cato. I say this for fear anyone may suppose that in marrying a poor
woman he has secured peace. When[7] Philip king of Macedon, against whom
"Demosthenes thundered in his Philippics, was entering his bed-room as usual, his wife
in a passion shut him out. Finding himself excluded he held his tongue, and
consoled himself for the insult by reading a tragic poem. [1]Gorgias the
Rhetorician recited his excellent treatise on Concord to the Greeks, then at variance
among themselves, at Olympia. Whereupon [2]Melanthius his enemy observed: "Here is
a man who teaches us concord, and yet could not make concord between himself
his wife, and maid-servant, three persons in one house." The truth was that his
wife envied the beauty of the girl, and drove the purest of men wild with daily
quarrels. Whole tragedies of Euripides are censures on women. Hence Hermione
says,[3] "The counsels of evil women have beguiled me." In the semi-barbarous
and remote city [4]Leptis it is the custom for a daughter-in-law on[5] the second
day to beg the loan of a jar from her mother-in-law. The latter at once denies
the request, and we see how true was the remark of [6]Terence, ambiguously
expressed on purpose--"How is this? do all mothers-in-law hate their
daughters-in-law?" We read of a certain Roman noble who, when his friends found fault with
him for having divorced a wife, beautiful, chaste, and rich, put out his foot
and said to them, "And the shoe before you looks new and elegant, yet no one but
myself knows where it pinches." Herodotus[7] tells us that a woman puts off her
modesty with her clothes. And our own comic poet [8]thinks the man fortunate
who has never been married. Why should I refer to Pasiphae,[9] Clytemnestra, and
Eriphyle, the first of whom, the wife of a king and swimming in pleasure, is
said to have lusted for a bull, the second to have killed her: husband for the
sake of an adulterer, the third to have betrayed Amphiaraus, and to have
preferred a gold necklace to the welfare of her husband. In all the bombast of tragedy
and the overthrow of houses, cities, and kingdoms, it is the wives and
concubines who stir up strife. Parents take up arms against their children:
unspeakable banquets are served: and on account of the rape of one wretched woman Europe
and Asia are involved in a ten years' war. We read of some who were divorced
the day after they were married, and immediately married again. Both husbands are
to blame, both he who was so soon dissatisfied, and he who was so soon
pleased. Epicurus the patron of pleasure (though [1]Metrodorus his disciple married
Leontia) says that a wise man can seldom marry, because marriage has many
drawbacks. And as riches, honours, bodily health, and other things which we call
indifferent, are neither good nor bad, but stand as it were midway, and become good
and bad according to the use and issue, so wives stand on the border line of
good and ill. It is, moreover, a serious matter for a wise man to be in doubt
whether he is going to marry a good or a bad woman. [2]Chrysippus ridiculously
maintains that a wise man should marry, that he may not outrage Jupiter[3]
Gamelius and Genethlius. For upon that principle the Latins would not marry at all,
since they have no Jupiter who presides over marriage. But if, as he thinks, the
life of men is determined by the names of gods, whoever chooses to sit will
offend Jupiter[4] Stator.
49. Aristotle and Plutarch and our Seneca have written treatises on
matrimony, out of which we have already made some extracts and now add a few more.
"The love of beauty is the forgetting of reason and the near neighbour of
madness; a foul blot little in keeping with a sound mind. It confuses counsel, breaks
high and generous spirits, draws away men from great thoughts to mean ones; it
makes men querulous, ill-tempered, foolhardy, cruelly imperious, servile
flatterers, good for nothing, at last not even for love itself. For although in the
intensity of passion it burns like a raging fire, it wastes much time through
suspicions, tears, and complaints: it begets hatred of itself, and at last hates
itself." The course of love is laid bare in Plato's Phaedrus from beginning to
end, and Lysias explains all its drawbacks--how it is led not by reason, but by
frenzy, and in particular is a harsh gaoler over lovely wives. Seneca, too,
relates that he knew an accomplished man who before going out used to tie his
wife's garter upon his breast, and could not bear to be absent from her for a
quarter of an hour; and this pair would never take a drink unless husband and wife
alternately put their lips to the cup; and they did other things just as absurd
in the extravagant outbursts of their warm but blind affection. Their love was
of honourable birth, but it grew out of all proportion. And it makes no
difference how honourable may be the cause of a man's insanity. Hence [1]Xystus in
his Sentences tells us that "He who too ardently loves his own wife is an
adulterer." It is disgraceful to love another man's wife at all, or one's own too
much. A wise man ought to love his wife with judgment, not with passion. Let a man
govern his voluptuous impulses. and not rush headlong into intercourse. There
is nothing blacker than to love a wife as if she were an adulteress. Men who say
they have contracted marriage and are bringing up children, for the good of
their country and of the race, should at least imitate the brutes, and not
destroy their offspring in the womb; nor should they appear in the character of
lovers, but of husbands. In some cases marriage has grown out of adultery: and,
shameful to relate! men have tried to teach their wives chastity after having taken
their chastity away. Marriages of that sort are quickly dissolved when lust is
satiated. The first allurement gone, the charm is lost. What shall I say, says
Seneca, of the poor men who in numbers are bribed to take the name of husband
in order to evade the laws promulgated against bachelors? How can he who is
married under such conditions be a guide to morality, teach chastity, and maintain
the authority of a husband? It is the saying of a very learned man, that
chastity must be preserved at all costs, and that when it is lost all virtue falls
to the ground. This holds the primacy of all virtues in woman. This it is that
makes up for a wife's poverty, enhances her riches, redeems her deformity, gives
grace to her beauty; it makes her act in a way worthy of her forefathers whose
blood it does not taint with bastard offspring; of her children, who through
it have no need to blush for their mother, or to be in doubt about their father;
and above all, of herself, since it defends her from external violation. There
is no greater calamity connected with captivity than to be the victim of
another's lust. The consulship sheds lustre upon men; eloquence gives eternal
renown; military glory and a triumph immortalise an obscure family. Many are the
spheres ennobled by splendid ability. The virtue of woman is, in a special sense,
purity. It was this that made [1]Lucretia the equal of Brutus, if it did not
make her his superior, since Brutus learnt from a woman the impossibility of being
a slave. It was this that made [2]Cornelia a fit match for Gracchus, and
[3]Porcia for a second Brutus. [4]Tanaquil is better known than her husband. His
name, like the names of many other kings, is lost in the mists of antiquity. She,
through a virtue rare among women, is too deeply rooted in the hearts of all
ages for her memory ever to perish. Let my married sisters copy the examples of
[5]Theano, [6]Cleobuline, Gorgente, [7]Timoclia, the [8]Claudias and Cornelias;
and when they find the Apostle conceding second marriage to depraved women,
they will read that before the light of our religion shone upon the world wives of
one husband ever held high rank among matrons, that by their hands the sacred
rites of Fortuna [9]Muliebris were performed, that a priest or [10]Flamen twice
[11]married was unknown, that the high-priests of Athens to this day
[12]emasculate themselves by drinking hemlock, and once they have been drawn in to the
pontificate, cease to be men.